People tell me I'm a very positive person and I am. Sometimes though its hard. Found out a while ago that my brother has lung cancer with secondary in brain, wasn't offered treatment just mild radiotherapy for brain tumour. The family are still very protective of me because of my bout with this disease and I worry for them because having to go through this once was bad enough without having to do it again. Plus our situations are very different I never once thought I would die where he seems very accepting of it. I find it hard to understand how people can just let go so easily. My counsellor says that I should realise that not everyone is as strong as me, but I never felt strong I just plodded through from day to day. I also have a friend who is stuggling with her second bout of breast cancer and feel guilty because I haven't been to see her. I'm back in uni on Monday and the time just seems to fly. I would ask people reading this, if they can to pray for Michael and Trudi.
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Sorry to hear about your brother. It must be devastating for all of you. I think the way people cope (whether they are accepting, or wanting to fight to the last, or whatever) is very individual (which can be difficult for relatives). Wishing your family strength through it all.
Thanks Alison for your reply. You are right, how to deal with things is a very individual choice. I was really just letting off steam, feeling better about things today. My brother is home now and in good form though he is very tired. I read your blog and it is a terrific piece of writing. Everyone who's been through it knows exactly what you mean. Thank you again,
It took her less than a year to recover from lung cancer and met to the brain.
If she could recover than your brother can do the same. Fortunately for her, at first they didn't know about the met to the brain so
they operated her lung right away. I don't think oncs operate ( or operate fast enough), once they find out there are mets.
She receive chemotherapy which was quite difficult for her, but her hair didn't fall off.
After starting chemo, they discovered the met in the brain.
They gave her one long (about 5 minutes) radiotherapy treatment, which succefuly eliminated the tumor in her brain.
She is now past it. She told me what really helped her recover, was a phone call from someone who has had cancer a few years back. She said that she started telling him about the cancer and the met, and his response was ".. and?"
What I'm trying to say is, that he belittled her condition and it helped her a lot. When people discover they have cancer and
especially when there are mets involved, they start thinking like their onc think - that there's no hope, it's too hard.
If we try to find a way to recover from cancer, we have more chances to succeed.
didn't see your reply till now. Thats good news about your friend, my brother is now in the hospice and from what my niece tells us may not last till Christmas. I have come to terms with the fact that he hasn't seemed to want to fight this disease. He is comfortable at the minute and seems content with the way things are. Please God he will not have too much pain. Thank you again for your reply ,
