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Hi Alster,

Sorry to hear about your Mum,Yes its very painful

when someone you love some one dies and leaves you.But think of the beautiful times and memories you both had together,they will stay in your heart forever.Your Mum will never be far away, she will be close by watching over you and her Grandchildren.

So forget about nightmares. It will take a long time to come to terms with her Death,and it will be with you until,and it will start to ease.You will always remember your Mum for the wonderful Woman that she was. All the best and may your Mum Rest in Peace.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

There isn't a day that goes by when I don't miss my old mum but she left me with some wonderful memories, there have been times when I so wanted to tell her things, but I know she knows what I have been up to and I have to smile because I can still hear her say 'I don't know where I went wrong you you, the others turned out normal' she would say it with the biggest grin on her face. She lives on through me, my children and their children. I know how hard it can be. Take care...love Carol x

Hi, I feel soooo the same about my mum too. She died just over a year ago, and coming up to the anniversary was so tough but seemed easier once it had passed. Trouble is, now it feels just as bad. Like you said, my mum would be livid that I am feeling like this and so I try my hardest to get on with life as best I can. I tell her (and my dad who died 4 years earlier) all about how my boys are doing, how I am doing, what I have bought etc etc etc, and that seems to help me. I think of mum & dad everyday pretty much, for fairly random reasons, and I imagine that that will probably never change.

Sometimes I still get very bitter when I see other people who are lucky to have their parents around, and especially with my mum-in-law (lol) but that is lessening now to what it was, so I am hoping that eventually I might not be such a misery!

If those we loved meant nothing, we would feel nothing, so we are lucky that we feel as we do really eh?

Take care, sending you much love,

Louise x x x

I think it was Shakespeare who said, "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all". It is incredibly difficult to lose a parent because no-one will EVER replace them. All we can do is hang on to the good memories and block out the bad.