I am caring for my mum . Sadly she has T4 Lung cancer ,also full on alzheimers. My Dad recently died of cancer too . My world has been blown apart . I am a single mum with a lovely son and her own business... which is now suffering greatly due to the care my mum requires. At this moment the only professional care she has is a district nurse calling once a week , literally if she can . I have begged for medical assistance but to no avail . mum will not have carers in the house , due to her alzheimers she lives in her world where dad is alive and at work , she is being a good wife and all is well ... Except she has had the same clothes on for around 10 weeks , sleeps 22 hours a day and has pain going on in various forms all the time, bless her it is heartbreaking , she is 5ft 9ins and 4.7 stone , she barely eats or drinks ... just smokes , that is all she is awake for. She cannot work heating , appliancse , TV, or even answer the telephone .... I am her brain now . I run her home along with mine and care for her the best I can. However it is taking over our lives , I have to go possibly 3 times a day , I am bewildered and frightened fo r mum also my son and myself . I feel she needs more care than I can give ... I don't sleep or do anything anymore except worry . Please help and advise me what to do ... I have social worker ...no help ..District nurse no help... please help . misso
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