Thursday September 30th - We've had a lovely morning!

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The phone rang at 9.30am this morning and it was mum.  When I answered she asked me was I on my way.  I told her it was only 9.30am and I would come in at around 11am.  I asked had someone helped her to phone me and she said 'no I did it myself I'm getting very clever!'

I arrived at the ward at 11am and mums face lit up when she saw me, big difference from yesterday.  We watched This Morning together and then I gave her her lunch at around 12.15pm.  She ate well, probably half her mince, mash and broccolli and all of her rice pudding.  Then she asked if I'd take her out for a cig, so off we went.  It was a beautiful sunny day and we went outside with her well wrapped up and sat in the sun for about half an hour before heading back to the ward.

Christine arrived just after we got back and explained that although mum was now on the list for the hospice three of the beds were not moving (so to speak) and so it could be a while before mum gets in there.  We discussed the possibility of Burnley hospice or accrington victoria cottage hospital and we agreed to wait until tomorrow and see what happened with Blackburn before making a decision. 

Mum told Christine that she had no idea how nice it was to see my face coming through the door.  She teared up a bit and that's the first time I've seen her emotional about the situation but she soon picked up and we had a nice chat and even the odd laugh.

After Christine went I took mum out again and then returned her to the ward about 2.30pm and got her settled in bed for a nap whilst I came home to do the washing and have something to eat.

Lots of you have been advising me to enjoy, and cherish, every minute I have with my mum and for the past week I thought I would never be able to do that but today I have really enjoyed my time with mum.  We've watched TV together, chatted and even laughed.  Hopefully she will have a nap while I'm home and will be bright again tonight.  I'm heading back for 5pm so that I can help her with her dinner.  Kieran volunteers on a ward in the hospital and starts at 5pm so I'll take him with me and he will come and visit mum when he finishes at 7pm and then I'll bring him home.

Mum told Christine her boy was coming to see her tonight and told her all about his ambition to become a Doctor.  She also told Christine how much she appreciated all that she was doing for us and said she didn't know what we'd have done without her.  She was definitely a lot less confused today, here's hoping it continues and we can have some more good days together.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hugs mate

    john xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Caroline,

    As already said by many, it sounds as though you've both had a good day, but I do understand the frustration caused by still being in that hospital. Praying for a bed at the hospice for your Mum very soon.

    Love and hugs,

    Rose x x x x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Mum just rung me at 8.20am.  She announced that she had had her breakfast saying 'so much for you coming to give me it!'  I explained that I had said lunch and that I couldn't come in so early.  She accepted that ish!  

    Told me she had had her blood pressure taken and was feeling quite bright again this morning.  I'm starting to wonder if I could bring her home.  Dr Mehta and Christine have discouraged this 'at the moment' but I wonder are they considering me rather than mum, feeling it would just be too much for me.  

    My uncle told me last night that I couldn't do it but I'm not so sure.  If we had a hospital bed downstairs she wouldn't have to go upstairs at all and all I would need to do is get her up in the morning, strip wash, on and off the commode and she would be happy just watching the TV and having a cig when she wants one.  I'm sure I could have someone from the hospice in during the night and if I get a good nights sleep I'd be fine during the day.  

    Although the smoking should be an issue, it isn't, too late for that now and she enjoys it.  The only thing she looks forward to is getting out for a cig but it's a horrid day and I don't like taking her out into the cold to have one.  Need to see Christine today and ask why they don't think she should come home.  It's where mum wants to be although she has accepted going to the hospice as she says she knows it would be too much for me.  We should be doing what mum wants not protecting me.  

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Caroline, so glad that your lovely Mum is improving. Hope you can get her out of the hospital as soon as she is ready. Look after yourself as well, thinking of you and all your family, Val XX