Diagnosis

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6th July 2010 -

My Dad is in his early sixties, and has been suffering with shortness of breath for some time, and was diagnosed with COPD two years ago.  Recently he has had a pain in his side, and went to the doctors for investigations.  After two CT scans and a biopsy, he was given the devastating news that he has mesothelioma, which I gather is from coming into contact with asbestos (my Dad used to work for the Gas Board, and has been a plumber and gas fitter for years).  He was told that there is no cure for this aggressive type of cancer, and at best he could have two years although the consultant hinted that he should do any holidaying in the next six months.  He was given an option of a clinical trial at Papworth Hospital - two choices, one being a mesovats, and the other being the talc option.  My Dad has decided today that he doesn't want the mesovats, but will try the talc option.  

I can't begin to describe how I feel about it all, as I am not sure myself yet!  I feel numb at the moment I guess.  I can't quite believe that my Dad won't be around in two years.  I have lots of thoughts going on in my head at the moment - too many to mention at the moment.  I will try and write them all down in my next blog.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Pink,

    Welcome to the site sorry about the circumstances

    but you will find a lot of friends here who are only to willing to help in anyway we can. Should it be for a talk  or for help or understanding, we will pass on our experiences of Cancer of all different kinds, that might just help. So stay here and if you want to ask any questions there will always be somebody here to try and answer.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello Pink, I am sorry to hear your devastating news.

    I lost my darling husband 4 years ago with the same thing he was 64.

    He lasted a good healthy 4 years after diagnosis. During that time we made many more happy memories together. I still miss him very much.

    My advise to you is to try and live in the here and now. Stop thinking about life without your dad, that is as painful as if he was already gone.

    Live each day making happy memories, if you find yourself thinking of the future give your dad a ring and talk to him. Thats what I used to do I used to tell myself that he is still here and to just pick up the phone and here his voice and tell him that I loved him.

    Try to stay strong for your dad, it won't be easy but you can do it and we will all be here to help you.

    Lots of Love Julie X