the journey

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my amazing dad has been battling cancer for nearly 2 years now(wish i had found this site then)i thought i would write a diary /blog of how his treatment is going. it all began back in april 2009 when a urine infection showed up a tumour on his right kidney.he was whisked in to hospital to have the kidney removed within a week and the op was a success.he felt great after the op and back to normal within days so it came as a great shock to us all at his 3 month check up that the cancer had returned.they found small nodules on his lungs and tumours in the bone(hip and bottom of back) by the start of october dad had been given the cancer drug sutent.the side effects he felt made him lose weight all his hair went snowy white,had no taste for food and nausea. the nausea was controlled with different drugs.one of the good things about this treatment was you got a 2 week break in each cycle so on his 2 weeks off his appetite returned and he started to feel better. the sutent meds kept him ticking away for 14 months.we got the news end of nov begining of dec 2010 that a tumour in the spine had grown from 7cm to 18cm so the sutent was not keeping the cancer at bay so he was removed from it. this came as a huge blow to mum,dad myself and brother as who knew what the next step would be. he suffered with pains in his legs and a scan showed a non malignant tumour compressing the spine making the legs painful so he had 2 lots of radiotherapy which def helped and shrunk the tumour.dad was told of a new drug that they wanted him to trial.sadly he was not suitable for the trial due to blood counts etc but was told there was a fairly new cancer drug called everolimus(afinitor) they wanted him to try. this however would need funding.the price was very high but like the sutent(which needed funding we were optomistic.the news back 2 weeks later was no PCT had turned us down but dads consultant had applied to another company and they said yes.dad has been on the new treatment 10 days now.the main side effect of this is such a sore swollen mouth with ulcers which stops his ability to eat and drink.he does seem quite out of it at the moment so we are contacting mcmillan nurses and his cancer nurse.

7th march 2011

dad has been admitted to hospital.for the last 4 days or so he has been quite out of it.he is very dissorientated ,grabbing for things that are not there,hallucinations,sleeping 22 hours a day.we have spoken to a nurse and she seems to think it could be to do with his type 2 diabetes as he had a urine reading of 27.8(very high) we were told to take dad to his cancer ward at the hospital where it seems it is not the diabetes but a build up of morphine pain relief(mum did stop giving him this 2 days ago as pain was ok and because he seemed so out of it)they have kept dad in for at least overnite and the morphine has been stopped. they have also stopped the cancer drug for now as his poor mouth is so sore so they want to try an get him back to better health before restarting the drug again. i will update when i have more news.

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    Just remember all the wonderfull times and the warmth and strength his love was for you Wendie, that will help you through the bad days.xxsamxx

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    MAY 31st 2011

    today is going to be a difficult day.we have to register the death and sort out bank accounts and insurance policies.

    mum has to get the clothes we want dad to wear ready so sean and i can take them to the funeral directors but this is not proving an easy job.mum is putting it off and we are going to wait untill my brother steve gets here and do that.

    it seems the list of things to do today is long and wont be easy but we all have each other for support

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    MAY 31st 2011

    today has been busy. we have registered the death been to the funeral director and sorted through lots of paperwork..(thank god dad was very organised with his filing).we have the funeral booked now for next tuesday and have chosen the celebration of life venue (mum does not like word wake)

    the will man came out and explained plenty to us so we have been sorting through financial things tonight

    it got emotional earlier as we were looking through pics to do a picture board for after the funeral and so many happy happy memories came flooding back which of course made me blub to the point i wasnt allowed to look any more as was soaking the pics...whoops

    more to follow tomorrow

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    JUNE 1st 2011

    today again has been very busy.sean went back to work so was strange not having him with me. mum had her other sister come today to see her.my brother was sorting paper work in the office and i went off to a florist to get some prices on flowers

    i went back to mums  as the vicar was coming to see us at 3pm to discuss the service. i am reading a poem i found called broken chain and myself and my brother are reading a tribute(i hope we do my dad proud)

    everything seems to be all system go now for the funeral on tuesday

    tonight i have come home with josh and sean and steve and my eldest are stayin with mum tonight. we are trying to dwindle down all of us stayin so its not too much of a shock when mum is on her own(we think tomorrow night may be her 1st night alone now)

    dads hospital bed and chair and wheelchair was collected today and that hit mum quite hard. she also got tearful when she read mine and steves tribute to dad. i was very wobbly driving home today for all sorts of reasons and quite emotional too

    tomorrow im taking josh and his friend out for the day to splashdown.while they are there me and charlie will go and get an outfit for the funeral

    my uncle from france is coming over on sat and i think he may stay with me or maybe mum for a few days

    will update tomorrow

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    twizz, my heart breaks as I read your Dad's Journey... What an amazing daughter you are.  I too lost my Dad on 8th of April, and still feel quite numb, but we do smile a lot with our memories.  Those last few days are very hard I know, thinking of you - XOX - Jules