the journey

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my amazing dad has been battling cancer for nearly 2 years now(wish i had found this site then)i thought i would write a diary /blog of how his treatment is going. it all began back in april 2009 when a urine infection showed up a tumour on his right kidney.he was whisked in to hospital to have the kidney removed within a week and the op was a success.he felt great after the op and back to normal within days so it came as a great shock to us all at his 3 month check up that the cancer had returned.they found small nodules on his lungs and tumours in the bone(hip and bottom of back) by the start of october dad had been given the cancer drug sutent.the side effects he felt made him lose weight all his hair went snowy white,had no taste for food and nausea. the nausea was controlled with different drugs.one of the good things about this treatment was you got a 2 week break in each cycle so on his 2 weeks off his appetite returned and he started to feel better. the sutent meds kept him ticking away for 14 months.we got the news end of nov begining of dec 2010 that a tumour in the spine had grown from 7cm to 18cm so the sutent was not keeping the cancer at bay so he was removed from it. this came as a huge blow to mum,dad myself and brother as who knew what the next step would be. he suffered with pains in his legs and a scan showed a non malignant tumour compressing the spine making the legs painful so he had 2 lots of radiotherapy which def helped and shrunk the tumour.dad was told of a new drug that they wanted him to trial.sadly he was not suitable for the trial due to blood counts etc but was told there was a fairly new cancer drug called everolimus(afinitor) they wanted him to try. this however would need funding.the price was very high but like the sutent(which needed funding we were optomistic.the news back 2 weeks later was no PCT had turned us down but dads consultant had applied to another company and they said yes.dad has been on the new treatment 10 days now.the main side effect of this is such a sore swollen mouth with ulcers which stops his ability to eat and drink.he does seem quite out of it at the moment so we are contacting mcmillan nurses and his cancer nurse.

7th march 2011

dad has been admitted to hospital.for the last 4 days or so he has been quite out of it.he is very dissorientated ,grabbing for things that are not there,hallucinations,sleeping 22 hours a day.we have spoken to a nurse and she seems to think it could be to do with his type 2 diabetes as he had a urine reading of 27.8(very high) we were told to take dad to his cancer ward at the hospital where it seems it is not the diabetes but a build up of morphine pain relief(mum did stop giving him this 2 days ago as pain was ok and because he seemed so out of it)they have kept dad in for at least overnite and the morphine has been stopped. they have also stopped the cancer drug for now as his poor mouth is so sore so they want to try an get him back to better health before restarting the drug again. i will update when i have more news.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    MAY 17th 2011

    popped in with soem more sorbet for dad earlier...he cant seem to get enough of it.he had a good night last night and has been pretty good for all of today so nothing too much to report

    me and sean and the kids are going over tomorrow night to stay as josh wants to watch bournemouth play on tv and dad is more than happy for us to be there. i am going to try and sort some reflexology out for him as soon as possible as am sure this will help him

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    MAY 18th 2011

    rang mum this morning and dad had a bad night.very anxious and agitated from around 2am on wards.the dr has upped his aniexty tablets to 3 times now as we only just found out they last a few hours so hopefully this will help

    im off to my friends salon today for a bit of pre wedding tanning/makeup etc so am looking forward to that

    will be staying at mum and dads tonight so will update more later

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    MAY 18th 2011

    got to mum and dads about half 6 this eve just as my brother turned up. dad has not been good most of the day.he has been sleeping a lot and when he does wake he becomes very agitated and anxious. he has eaten nothing today and not had much to drink which is a worry for all of us. my brother steve popped home and said he would be back later on this eve. mum has been emotional tonight but keeps trying to hide it from dad.as i said she does need to have a good howl else it will all bottle up and wont do her any good.its been a strange night,just sitting watchng dad while he sleeps in his chair chatting amongst ourselves. he has eaten a few ice chips when he woke up about 11.30 pm and the marie curie nurse and mum are now settling dad down for the night. my brother is going home soon and said good bye to dad and he thanked him for being here and then said come tomorrow and we can go to the park please. steve has the day off tomorrow and im working till lunchtime so we will take dad out to the park for a walk.this will give mum the chance to go out and get some shopping. she so needs to get out now and then but wont leave dad. its mums birthday tomorrow and dad has his card for her and ive been out an got some pressies he wanted to give to her. we will give her the best birthday we can and hope she can enjoy herself. dad is now dozing in the chair so we will retire to bed now.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I hope you make th ebest of the day for your mum Wendie love and hugs to you all. xx samxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    MAY 19th 2011

    today is mums birthday and its not been the best day for her... dad has been very agitated on and off most of the day.mum was so pleased with her cards and pressies from us all and as expected dads card made her cry.

    dad had a visit from the dr this afternnon about his anxiety etc.the dr was lovely and spoke to mum and dad at great lengths and said he was so sorry and he wished dad didnt have cancer and that they could cure it but they cant.he also mentioned that mum and dad and all of us as a family need to chat about things that are going to happen and that it needs to be faced up to.i know deep down i have kind of come to terms with it and i think deep down we all have its just talking bluntly and openly about it all now.....

    i have just been off to have a good howl as me an dad were alone and i said he had to try and eat something as we need to keep his strength up so that i can push him in his wheelchair down the aisle for my wedding in 4 weeks.he just looked at me and said bless you and hugged me.he then said im so sorry wendie and i said what you got to be sorry for and he replied that i might not be there for you...i convinced him that he will be but inside my heart is breaking hearing him say that...

    we are going to sit down later....mum ,dad,steve myself and sean to discuss things..that im not looking forward to but will post more later