My husband and I have now reluctantly accepted that we are only going to get through this if we have separate bedrooms. We have never slept apart before, and we always said we'd stay in the same bed whatever happened. But we are both becoming increasingly tired and irritable with each other due to lack of sleep.
I'm one of these people who needs, and usually has, a good 8 hours sleep every night. At the moment I sleep badly as I wake up about every 2 hours with a mouth full of gunk and mucus. If I don't sit up immediately, and then go out to the bathroom for a rinse, I am coughing and choking. So I am waking my poor husband up all through the night. Apparently I am also snoring. Well he says it's not quite snoring, more like snorting, snuffling and rasping. Whatever it is it's very loud and disruptive, and he is finding it very annoying.
I take a couple of naps during the day, and then at 8pm I like to go to bed for a further nap. If I am lucky I get straight to sleep for a couple of hours. This used to work fine, but my poor husband is now so exhausted that he has started to come up to bed early, and he keeps disturbing my nap. This is really annoying me. When I have a nap I like the room to be dark, and I like to drift off to sleep to the sound of my favourite radio station. My husband comes into the bedroom. He turns on the light, he changes the radio station, he might put the TV on. Perhaps a rummage through some drawers and cupboards. His MP3 player goes on, and he is tapping his feet in time to the music so the bed feels like it's shaking. He's brings his phone with him which makes annoying beeping noises. A friend might text him. Perfectly reasonable thing to do at 9pm. But not when it wakes me up from my nap!! And I can never get back to sleep till 11pm when the light finally goes off.
So tomorrow I am getting my own bedroom. I'm sorry to say that I can hardly wait. I need my sleep to get better, and he needs his sleep to look after me. We are both upset by the situation, but we can't see any other alternative. Hopefully it won't have to be for long.
