Communication August 10th 2013

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Wake up Saturday morning and the house is strangely quiet.  I've slept very well for a change, it's now 10am there should be noise.  The radio is always on.  Then I realise.  The radio is on.  Yesterday I had muffled hearing and ringing in the ears.  This morning I am almost deaf.  I have been warned that this may happen and will be temporary, although there may be a little bit of permanent damage.  I clear my throat.  No the voice isn't back yet. 

So where is my husband?  I have no idea as I can't hear much or shout out to him.  But I know he's about somewhere, he wouldn't leave me Home Alone.  I look out the window.  Oh there he is.  Pruning the rose bushes with an electrical hedge trimmer.  He has become a keen gardener since my cancer.  Unfortunately the enthusiasm lies mainly with equipment and less with things like weeding.  We seem to have acquired a few items lately, I have previously been too tired to care what has been going on.  I'm a bit more awake today.

I tap frantically on the bedroom window.  He looks up and waves cheerily.  He seems in a good mood today.  I recall a conversation a few days ago when I had some voice.  He made an enquiry about the roses.  I 'm sure I did say just leave them dear, they need pruning in a special way,  I will deal with them when I am better.  I know, he is being thoughtful and helpful. 

This afternoon I am taken out into the garden to see something that is concerning him.  It's a shrub with a few thousand blackfly swarming all over it.  It does not look well.  I point out the bug spray in the garage.  Or perhaps it just needs the hedge trimmer. 

Husband is more cheerful tonight than I have seen him in ages.  I am very pleased.  I suspect it has something to do with something he has seen on the internet that he would like to buy.  It'll be really useful apparently.  It's a super duper state of the art hedge trimmer. 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I love this blog. Reading it now as I put myself into bed time mode, it reminds me what fun a relationship is, as well as how exasperating the other half can be. Of course I was perfect and an ideal husband so living with me presented no problems. [Clears throat. Ahem.]

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Margaret, 

    Thank you for making me smile.  Before he was diagnosed with cancer my husbands gardening involved cutting the lawn once a year if I was lucky.   Now he is master of 15 small but perfectly formed raised beds (I know, I built them) where he grows fruit and vegetables.  I say he grows. He plants the seeds in the potting shed and he picks them, everything in between is done by his long suffering garden elf but it gives him so much pleasure the elf can't get upset.  If she gets frustrated at the extra garden jobs she just prunes the roses and anything else that gets in the way with, you guessed it, a very small but lethal hedge trimmer (and the roses seem to survive very well).  It is very therapeutic!