Pandora's Box

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Im sure you all don't need reminding about the story of Pandora's box.

The most important bit I think is right at the end.
She has opened the box and let out, old age, disease, war, death, then she shut the box.
A little voice asking to be let out, this was the voice of hope, hope said, you have to let me out, the world isn't complete without me.

Ive always loved this story and as a child Im sure my mum would tell you that I used to make up a dance to the story in our back garden.

It seems more important than ever now.

After joining a cancer website community, I posted a link to this blog, I have just read a couple of responses I have had, and one in particular made my eyes water, from a girl who also is going through exactly the same thing.

I knew that people out there were going through the same thing but to finally make contact is something beyond words. Lets just say it's precious. All of a sudden you don't feel alone.

This has given me new hope, that its not all doom and gloom, and although yes its going to be tough but mums cancer could respond to the chemo and extend her life beyond what we think. Its just staying positive that maybe is the key.

Nearly a year ago now a friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer, she lost her battle just a few months later, when I heard the news from her son, I cried. When I went to visit, I cried.
The tears wern't for myself, it was weird, it was the first time I had ever really shed tears for someone else.
After the doctors had taken away all her hope of recovery or response to treatment, I had some thoughts on hope.

Maybe you shouldnt give up hope, maybe you just change what you hope for.

I know that in my friends case, personally, I hoped for a peaceful, painless end.

So tonight, for mum and our family, I hope that we will get enough time to do what we want, say what we want, have some good times, hope that the cancer will respond to treatment, and stay under control, hope for many months yet.

Im sure I can add to this list, but right now this is all I can see, an image of Pandora, contemplating whether to let hope out of the box, I'm glad she did.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Angel,

    Where theres Life theres hope. You will get time to say what you want,do what you want.You hope the Cancer will respond to treatment if thats what you hope for why not. You have your Family and your friends all hoping for the same thing so why not.

    The biggest thing that frightens a Cancer sufferer is

    Dying alone.  That wont happen in your family.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    You're absolutely right, once you've joined this site you are never alone. There is always someone here to give support if you need it.

    I lost my dad to this dreadful disease fifteen weeks ago and know exactly the feelings you are going through.

    Staying positive is hard, I should know, I've had cancer myself, but I believe it is essential to getting through the days ahead. I so hope your mum responds well to treatment like I did.

    I will keep an eye open for your blogs to see how your mum is getting on.

    Wishing you both all the best for the future. Christine xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    how true your words are!!!!

    same thing happened to me on this site - last year - when my son was waiting for his op - i was terrified then i spotted a message on a forum

    a young man had gone thro nearly exactly the same as paul and was about a year further on doing really well

    it gave me so much hope

    now my paul is a year on and doing really well

    and so  i can pass this hope on to others...........

    much love xNx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I hope you never feel alone again - when I first joined the site so many lovely people posted messages of support, advice, etc it gave me hope. Hope that we would enjoy our remaining time together with dad, hope that he would remain pain-free, hope that we would get through all the stuff that living with cancer throws at you. And as you say, what we hope for does change as our circumstances change. I once hoped that I would turn into a princess - now my hopes are a little more realistic!!

    Wishing you, your family and especially your Mum all the best. Val X