Heres my story, I am 36yrs old and have 3 children, 2 boys, 1 girl, 16ys,12yrs,8yrs. God i love themx I have 2 sisters, who both live 5 mins from me. I have1 adorable nephew,xlove him toox. x I am a homemaker as they like to call us nowadays...!
My mum and dad live up the road. Well my mum has been diagnosed with SCLC.
Its early days for all of us.
I would really appreciate some words of hope.
It all seems very doom and gloom. Mum has just had her second lot of chemo last week. I go to see her most days. Help out around the house, dad trys his best! but womans touch is needed i think.
Both my sisters work, so i get to spend days with mum, my middle sis does most evenings. Mum wants us all around her all the time.
She wont say so but we feel it.
I want to be there all the time too. We are a very close family and share everything. Well almost everything, i hide a deep sadness from my parents. Strong upfront, thats me, alone i am a wreck.
Thats how it is.
How do i get through this, or is that selfish, should it be how can i help mum get through this?
What to think, i dont know? Is it a bad dream? Please wake me up.
I love my Mum so much, words cant describe what i am feeling and i am too scared to write them down here..
x
FormerMember
hi there ,sorry to hear about your mum though you seem to have a loving close family .its great that you & your sisters are helping mum & dad . i don't think you are being selfish at all you need to ask that of yourself but you will get through it because you are strong . i lost my dad to lung cancer three years ago & asked the same things i couldnt bear the thought of losing him he was my best friend .everyone always said that we were to peas in a pod.i spent as much time as i could with him like you are doing & it helped not only my parents but me aswell we talked about random things & made memorries that wouldnt have happened if we hadn't known he had cancer if you know what i mean. write down how you feel it will help .i was diagnosised last year also with breast cancer had surgery chemo & radiotherapy now in remission .the funny thing is i wasnt as scared about myself as i was when my dad was diagnosised i think thats because when its you then you feel more in control than when its someone you love so much.every thing you are feeling is perfectly normal please let us know how you are this is agreat site for help & people who care listen & give advice just wanted to send you big hugs & lots of love theresa xx
My Mum also has SCLC - she has just finished 5 chemos and her final one is this week - she has also had radiotherapy and the treatment hasn't really affected her all that badly. She is positive but it will be several weeks yet before we know how well it has worked. Keep an eye on my blog for progress.
I wish you all the luck in the world - this is a lovely place to hang around and the people are so supportive and kind and fun xx
My mum is also suffering form cancer, (Secondary liver). She is struggling through her chemo but we know it is to prolong her life not cure the cancer. I have 1 brother who has proved (as usual) to be a waste of space. We were never close and now i am more angry than ever with him for his selfishness. My dad is there but he is struggling to cope. Basically it's down to me to be strong. I manage this when infront of my parents but in reality I'm in bits. Trying to look after my two girls (11 and 9), the house,shopping and going to work every day and my mum is proving very difficult. I am soooo tired. Frequently the silliest of things set me off in tears. My hubbie is very understanding and helps when he can but his job takes him abroad alot so he is not here most of the time.
Anyway, the way I am trying to handle this is to put my mum first. I will deal with myself when I have time. My time with mum is precious. I love her so much and don't want her to have to deal with my emotions. Both my parents rely on me heavily these days. You are not selfish to wonder how on earth you will get through this. Thats a normal reaction. I to hide my deep sadness from them. I am not coping at all well with the situation but have never admitted that to anyone in my real life. I just wanted you to know you are not alone in your feelings. Try and stay strong and let us know how you get on. Take care.X
