Not to mention I've had a major falling out with my land lord today over something so minute if i wasn't so upset I'd be laughing.
Apparently leading a private life for one day is out of order and unfair. The 1st time I said no to the estate agents to not bring anyone to the flat is the worst thing ever that's happened to him and that I should put myself in his shoes. Ok, for one if I was in his shoes, I wouldnt get mad at the tennant right away and yell at them on the phone without knowing both sides of the story first. If I was him, I'd make sure the estate agents were telling the truth first. They accused me of refuse veiwing a while ago when I delibrately went out just so there's enough space for the people to look around in. I wouldn't be so unfair that I won't listen to the tennant, I wouldn't say I don't care who's fault it is and I'm not playing the blame game when he obviously is playing the blame game and he's blaming me. I called up the agency gasping for breath as i was so angry and depressed, and i just yelled at the estate agent, they had the keys and everything so why not? They didn't even see the point of telling me what really happened the day i supposedly refused to let anyone in. After a while they finally told me that it's not in their job description to say they've done it wrong and they're not paid to tell thir client that they're the one who didn't being someone into the flat. If this is adulthood and if this is what life is like now that I'm not a child, I'm not a teen, I'm an adult. I don't want to live. I felt like there was no one on my side, no one to hear me out and try and find out what's wrong. To make it right and to make the one making the mistake to say just a simple sorry.
I was really upset and decided i'll move out and I'll probably will have to move to somewhere far away from dad for a month, just til the new flat's up. Dad called as my landlord had been giving him an ear full. Who does he think I am? 6 yrs old? That my dad would tell me off? What is he trying? He keeps getting the agents to call my dad too which is bull. I live here, not my dad. Why can't he stop hasseling my dad? But anyway, He's been on the fone to the landlord and basically there was so many holes in what he said it was just a waste of breath.
There's so much to do and so little time. Dad's going to sort out the properties and then he's going back to HK for chinese medicine instead of western medicine. He calmed us both down and arranged things to be done.
As soon as the fone conversation was done. I took one look at Joe(my boyfriend) I smiled, weakly and whispered "Good ol' dad." and i cried. I still haven't stopped. Its just been an awful day. I'll miss dad's logical mind, I'll miss talking to him, singing with him to the 60's tunes, his great sense of humour...
I just can't stop. I know he's still around now but... i really fear for the future.
Right now, it's sunny outside but I feel so rainy right now.
Sorry for being so depressing
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Momoka
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FormerMember
Yes, it's upsetting for you. Just try to be calm. This is an adult thing to do. Ignore your landlord's attempts to treat you as a child. Only what he says to you personally is relevant.
So you refused access to your flat for perfectly good reasons, which you explained at the time. You can say that it is not your intention to be obstructive, as it is in your own best interests to assist in finding another tenant/owner of the flat. To make the task easier, you will move out as soon as you can, but need a little time to make sure your new place is suitable for your needs. Once your Landlord accepts this situation, tell him that arguments are not a good way to achieve the desired result. You do need some notice to be able to make sure the flat is tidy and available for viewing but as you say, your presence or absence makes no difference to anyone viewing it.
I hope your father benefits from the treatment in Hong Kong, but has he had all the right treatment where he is? It would be a pity to compromise his present treatment for an uncertain benefit.
Daddy's cancerous cells had resissted the chemo drug, the next one available is .. very destructive to his body. he's 58 soon and.. his body's not in the best shape.. so we're trying chinese medicine which has no side effects.
There's been a lot of changes and I can hardly adapt to everything even though dad seems absolutely fine... but too fine mean he's probably not fine... it's been a long day.
