coping with mum and dad

Hi Me,

Welcome to the site nobody wants to join. But you will make a lot of friends on this site onlty to willing to help in any way. Have a word with your Mums Dr

and see if he can get a district nurse round to see your Mum. Sorry I cant help with the type of Cancer your Mums got. But Im  sure there will be plenty of people on the site willing to give you advice.All the best and Good luck.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

hi hun yes  as sarsfield says you can get a mac nurse in to see mum and help you they are always available and just amazing

to help you cope with anything this site is a godsend for me anyway so many lovely people to give tips advice etc oh and love so important dont think you have to go it alone we are all here every minute of the day take care love and hugs jen xxx

Hi Mel, I am sorry for the trauma you are all going through. Have you tried contacting your local social services? Both your mum and dad would be entitled to home care services and even respite for your father to go to. It's not as impersonal as you think and may help you take the load a little and give you peace of mind when you can't be there.

Anne x

Here is the link for info: www.macmillan.org.uk/.../Vulvalcancer.aspx

Agree with Anne re getting social services involved - you cant do it yourself from that distance.

Jan x

would just like to say thanks so much for all your comments i will have words with mums gp and social services only problem i see is my mum is a very proud woman and would not take kindly to what she would see as strangers in her home re. home help and as for dad she only thinks he is a bit forgetful wheni know its more i spent half my working life with the elderly who had mental health problems but mum doesnt see it but ill try and see whay can be done anything is better then the way things are at the momment thanks again hugs and best wishes to you all mel xx