Thanks.

Hi again Marion, I remember how i was after I was told, it seemed surreal, who me? Naw that can't be true, I feel fine, I had thought I was cancer free for 9 years, you wil go through all the normal emotions, apparently there are 5 , just like coping with bereavement, denial, depression,anger, bargaining,and finally acceptance,(not sure if that's the correct order) there is no easy ways to go through it, how could there be, but I have to say this site helped me a lot, I went into chat and found myyself laughing unexpectedly, and made some great friends.

Although I don't go into chat anymore I still keep in touch with everyone, it helps to know your not alone, it helps to compare notes, it helps when you hear of someone in the same position gets good news, you must try to push it to the back of your mind and try to enjoy life to the full, you know that old saying ...."live every day like it's your last" well for people in our position it's even more important to squeeze every bit of happiness in there, and make some new memories for our loved ones.

Good luck

Ps. To reply you can just reply to the last reply you get, and it will go on the bottom of your replies

Liz xxxxxxxx

Thanks for that liz, nobody else seems to understand, will try and take one day at a time. Think what you said about the five stages makes perfect sense, didnt realise it but went through all that when I was initially diagnosed.  Take care xxx

People who haven't gone through it can't even imagine what it's like, they look at you with pity, and feel helpless, and even embarrassed, they don't know what to say or act, and some will even avoid you, just because it make them feel uncomfortable, you might be surprised at which people avoid you and which ones come up trumps, I know I was, but it's not your problem how other people act, you shouldn't let it upset you (although it's hard) but get out there and do as much as possible, do silly things, do things you always wanted to do, but didn't have the nerve, make everyday count

Liz xxxxxx

That is so true liz, the people I thought would be there for me couldnt be seen for dust, one person who I was extremelly close to for many years hasnt spoke to me since my first diagnoses, you do find out who your true friends are and the other ones I dont give a second thought to, sounds harsh but dont need friends like that.  Some of my relations have been wonderful from asking if I need help in the house to offering to come to hospital appoinments and a very special man in my  life could not have done more, Ive screamed at him, Ive cried etc etc and he puts up with it all.  Its such a strange one cancer you dont want to bother anyone but I just want someone to tell me its going to be okay and look after me, which of course they cant.  Admire your attitute to life and I will try to make every day count.  Marionxx

I'm glad you have supportive people around you, it really makes a difference,

Good luck with everything Marion, contact me any time

Liz xxxxx