well I just lost my dad last year but I can't seem to come to terms with it I feel really depressed and down I have a child so she helps take some of the pain away am only 20 and I have never felt like this before and I am having to cope with my mum spiralling out of control and it just adds to the pressure I am new to this so I don't know what goes on after this but I do need done support and someone to talk to who has experienced this to.
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Hi Margaret, so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. I cannot know how you feel as I still have both my parents, but I have had cancer myself.
I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling, but this site is a great way to chat or offload whenever you like. The people on here are very supportive and many have gone through the same as yourself.
I hope you can continue to come on and get the support you so need.
Take care of yourself and if you want to talk, don't hesitate to contact me, you can send a private message if you like.
I have lost both in laws. Father in law 13 years ago and mother in law 2 years ago. They were parents and grandparents and as such should never be forgotten and should always have a special place in our hearts! I guess because of your age that he was not very old himself. What you must do now is build up a load of memories for his grandchild. If you can... pick yourself up a bit and then encourage your mum to collect photos, write little stories about various holidays, happy moments, special times it will get you talking about him more easily, even chat to him while you are doing this...occasionally it will bring a smile to your face and give you a warm feeling....until finally you will find it easier to think of him without the tears and the heartache. He has given you so much over the years, he would not want you to waste all your lives being so sad all the time. You are allowed to feel grief, it is part of live but do try this........I promise it does work!
Hi So very sorry to hear about your dad. It is hard enough coping with loss yourself but must be so upsetting to watch your mum not coping, We are all here to support you when you need someone to talk to or let it all out, So many on this site know the pain of losing a loved one, please feel free to pm me or come into chat if you feel you want to.
I'm so sorry - I know it can't be easy and no-one deserves to feel so low. Think about how your dad would want you to feel right now and take some time out. Relax, remember him, and treat yourself (be it a present from you to you, a night in,a night out, or a lovely walk just by yourself).
I really feel for you having to cope with so much at 20.
Thanks you all for such kind words. My dad was an old dad he was 72 but he brought me up all my life I can't really talk to mum she has drinking problems which has worsened over losing my dad and she has mental health issues. My dad was my rock and I was his I could go to him for anything but with my mum I haven't got much of a bound am only making sure she is all right at time cause my dad loved her but I know it sounds bad she wasn't much of a mother due to problems she had and I always seen her drunk when I was growing up
But my dad made me feel special cause he meant the world to me. My child is the one getting me through this cause my dad dotted on her and my dad wouldn't want me to go down the same road as my mum. And my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer 3 years ago but she is in remission now no signs of it coming back.
