After a horrible day struggling with a bladder infection myself, I went to see Markus last night. He was on the balcony at the hospital, smoking. He went back to bed when I arrived, taking his pump with him. This great pump (and other infusions) has given him freedom from pain, so he is feeling much better. However, it makes him very drowsy, so he can't keep his eyes open long - I think he is sleeping most of the day. He had been feeling very nauseous, but they have managed to control that, too. His temperature is also down, and he is getting infusions of antibiotics. The diagnosis, as far as I know, is pneumonia.
His pain probably comes from the something in his neck and shoulder area which is apparently infiltrating the tissue there. Not directly a tumour, they said, they can't really tell us what it is.
I don't think they've given him any nutrition of any kind yet - it's now a week since he ate solid food or had more than a cup of soup.
But he's comfortable, that's the main thing. I'll go in this afternoon with his daughter for a short while (so he's not too tired) and then go again in the evening. I've got sick leave again this week - it must have been a really virulent bug that got first me, then Markus, about 10 days ago. And I even got the flu vaccine last autumn so that this wouldn't happen. The best laid plans of mice and men ....
FormerMember
if its not one thing its another...... you need a break eh?
the smoking thing well... i know what your saying but my hubby started last year after 6 years off them, what can you say..... think of your health??? not sure if i would have a good argument there i might start again myself (stopped my 40 a day habit 13 years ago) if it werent for the smell and taste (i did try again ooooops) nagging doesnt do it, i know ive tried lol. maybe it helps him cope, you are both going through hell and you both cope differently.
i might get an argument here but men cant cope as well as us women...... dont get me wrong, my hubby is my hero (20 years in army gulf war etc) but when it comes to family i dont think they cope with it all as well as we do, so maybe just maybe he really needs his crutch/ciggy. and apart from the smell etc, dare i say what harm???
I do agree with you about women coping better than men, my sister-in-law is my HERO. She has had mastectomy, chemo and is now commencing radiotherapy. After that she is going to have to face a hysterectomy and a breast reconstruction. It makes my lung lobectomy sound like a 'walk in the park'. She is brave with a capital B. I went to pieces on first diagnosis and still have anxious days now and again, she takes it all in her stride wearing a huge smile. She still probably finds time to nag her husband as well...............
Tomorrow the doctor wants to talk to us both together. I'm dreading it and have asked my sister in law to come along too. Just feel I'm breaking up.
Today I went to the nurse and told her it was my especial wish that he gets intravenous nutrition. They've given him nothing the whole time he's been in, since Monday. As I left in the afternoon they told him he'd get some calories intravenously - through his port, actually.
I don't mind him smoking now, he can puff away furiously if it gives him pleasure. I've put up with it for 27 years, even if I have nagged at times. Actually I don't really nag, surprisingly......
dont really know anything else to say except thinking of you both, and my thoughts are with you.sorry that sounds stupid, i want to say i`ll pray for you but i dont pray, but sending you my strongest vibes. liz xxxxxxxxxxxx
