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FormerMember

15 Mar 2011

hi i am new to this site, my sister has been diagnosed with cancer, she has had a tumour removed weighing 7lb from her stomach and has some left there . she is having 6 sessions of intensive chemo, she had her first session last friday, was great on the saturday. but been very down and weepy ever since, i don't know what to say to her to make her feel better. do i skirt around the illness and talk about anything and everything else or what? its even more difficult as i am in leeds and she lives over 90 miles away so the conversations are all by phone. i have only seen her once since her op. due to my work/family commitements, but i am hoping to go see her again in the next couple of weeks. please help if you can. maggie 2

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Maggie, I'm so sorry about your sister, I understand you "skirting" around her cancer, it's hard to know what to do, I don't know her, but you do, distance does matter of course, but nowadays phone calls cost so little, so you can spend hours on the phone or if you have computers, skype........ I'm very lucky, my family are brilliant, they let me rant,moan, talk about my funeral and just about anything I need to talk about, I do try to protect them by sugar coating some things, sometimes, but I know that they will listen and support everything...... There is nothing medical you can do to help your sister, and she may not even want to talk about it, some people don't, but please let her know it's ok to talk about it, she may need to, you need to be strong for her, if she asks you to act normal, try to do so, I asked my family to act normal, and they do, but that doesn't mean ignoring the fact, its a hard road for your whole family, and just by coming on here writing this blog shows your a caring sister..... You'll know what to do,

Good luck

Xoxoxooxoxoxo
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