My 48 year old brother is having surgery tomorrow to remove a tumour in his bowel. I am feeling very nervous, worried and cannot concentrate on anything at the moment. He has a lovely partner and beautiful 7 year old son and I need to do everything I can to support them all, whilst at the same time feeling so concerned for my little brother. He has had radio and chemo therapy in preparation and JIM has shrunk.
Our lovely Dad died three years ago and Mum has Dementia and is in a Care Home. I am feeling very responsible for him.
This is all sounding a bit pathetic as I read it back but I get such inspiration and motivation from all of you, the strength and courage portrayed is quite astounding - and I am not the cancer sufferer. He is normally so full of life and I am dreading seeing him in hospital afterwards, I need to be strong for him and his family. Any suggestions and past experiences would be gratefully received.
JJ is a great Chelsea fan and probably will miss the match as he will be in Theatre!
Thank you in anticipation.
Loulou
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FormerMember
I haven't had mine yet and i am dreading it but there is an amazing improvement with treatment these days. I think you will be surprised when you get to see him after surgery after the anaesthetic has worn off.
Treatments for colon cancer are very good now. So many people have had this disease that most hospitals now have experts who treat only this. I am sure your brother will do really well. This is not the end of the road, once he has had his operation he will need a couple of weeks to get back to normal.
This site is for everyone not just the person with the cancer. Anything you want to ask just ask someone on the site will either know or will have gone through the same thing. Remember you are not alone. There are so many families going through this. The most important thing is to be there for your brother and you are.
My hubby had chemo then chemo/radiotherapy. Not good while he was on it but bounced back. Had his tumour removed 6 weeks ago..not much fun but........bounced back again! He has a little way to go yet but I know he and I will get there in the end.
I know I am only a carer and it is easy for me to comment but it seems that once they stop worrying about what they are going through and start to think about other things they seem to come on quite quickly then. Never be afraid to ask questions and talk talk talk, this is a great place to be when you are feeling despondent. Remember that one step at a time motto.........it is the best way to go!
Thank you every one so much for your help, comments and support. I have just spoken to John, my brother wishing him well etc. etc. I could hardly talk as I was so emotional but he seemed very upbeat, which is great.
We have never been very close until now, his condition has definitely brought us very close and for that I am very grateful.
Thanks again, your response is just what I needed to support me and that in turn of course will help me to help him and his famiy. I will keep everyone posted, may even try the Chat Room, failed dismally last time. I feel much stronger this evening and take everyone's comments on board, I am so very grateful.
