I can't stop myself from crying from the past few days. My mum had just diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer and was giving the news of she would have 6months -1 year to live, it had spread to the liver and stomach. She is gonna be 70 years old this saturday. We went to get 2nd opinion from another doctor and was told chemo therapy will be the option.
The problem is mum has not in good health for the past few years and we are worry can she cope with it? Also it comes to the point of making the decision of do we really wnat mum to go through the side effects from chemo? From what we were told sometimes the side effect could cause more suffer than the decease itself.
Mum seems fine at the moment, She only complain sometimes she has stomach pain or cold sweat, other than that she is quite her usual self. We haven't tell her about the decease yet, because we don't know how she would react to it.
Does anyone here know about how stage 4 cancer respond to the chimo therapy? Please help!
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I'm so sorry that you have to face this.
You will receive plenty of support on here but you will find no one can tell you how your mum would respond to chemo as everyone is different, people with the same cancer and stage are different, some people sail through chemo some have an awful time. If your mum has a cancer nurse specialist, talk to them, they will have the knowledge of your mum's condition.
Sorry this has happened to you and that I can't be of much help.
I am so sorry to hear about your mother.my sister was also given the terrible news that her cancer was in her uterus and liver (she had been diagnosed with breast cancer in 1999) and was given three months to live, she was in America at the time visiting her husband who works there. The doctors in America refused to give her chemo as there was "no point". When she returned home to Northern Ireland the doctors her had a different opinion and started chemo straight away, Yes she was ill the first session she had and gave us all quite a scare, but she continued to have her treatment and completed her sessions. It would be wrong of me to say she sailed through it, but she did get through it, and 16 months later she is still with us, obviously she is still ill but chemo has given her more time with us for which we are eternally grateful. She is due to start some more treatment , whether she decides to have more chemo or not is her descision, only she knows what she will do, but I am so glad she got it in the first place or she would not be here.
My mother was also diagnosed with breast cancer in 2000 at the age of 64 and was told she had six months, she had chemo and is still with us, I know every case is different and I am by no means in a position of authority to give advice, I am just telling you our family's experience,. May I wish you and your mother all the very best, believe me when I say I know exactly how you must be feeling, it is a very difficult time for you all, and your emotions will be all over the place, please feel free to email me if you feel you would like to talk. My thoughts are with you.
It is ghastly to be in the position of onlooker. my partner who is 56 has pancreatic cancer and is in the position of deciding whether or not to have chemo although it is inoperable and she has possibly a year to live. Even more complicated in your case because your Mum may not be well placed to make her own decision about chemo, At the moment Ali is coming down on the side of yielding to the cancer and concentrating on living as fully as possible for as long as possible. Like your Mum she has some pain but so far we can control it with morphine and she is still going about and doing things.
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