Does it get easier?

hi - The quick answer is yes - it does get easier with time - but it never goes away completely - would you want that? What will fade is  some of the pain - but you will always know you had or even have a sister - even if Yvonne is only present in your heart now.

Please Don't feel guilty - natural as that might seem, it is never possible to feel that you did enough - no matter how much that was.

I am a patient myself - my Cancer is advanced so no cure - but being slowed down for a while, based on this I honestly believe that in some ways it is easier to be a patient rather than a carer or relative.

If we can come to terms with our own position then when the end comes it can even be a relief - no more pain or causing pain to our loved ones - which we see everytime we look into their eyes.

You sound like you have a great love for Yvonne - if she had the same amount for you then please -  live your life to the full - enjoy every minute - do the things she can't do now - but please do not feel guilty.

I know its a long road - but it will get easier - honest

john xx

Gently gently lwal.

Stop beating yourself up,I know its easy for me to say, but if you keep going on the way your are you will only make yourself ill. As for Psyhics thats entirely up to you. But me personally I am not a believer. Go and have a chat with one of your Family or your Dr. Good luck,

P.S. What your feeling is perfectly normal and will take time to ease. You are in my thoughts with your beautiful Sister.R.I.P.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

I am now 'the patient' but I lost a much loved sister 17 years ago to the same disease I have now. I mourned her for a very long time. The difference is that now I can remember her and the good times we shared and I can smile.

Been there... got the proverbial tee-shirt... it does get easier, I promise.

I wish you peace,

KateG

Hi,

every word that you wrote rings so true to me  - my dear fiance sadly passed away 7 weeks and 5 days ago. Each passing day gets harder for me too, as its getting further & further away since I last saw and held my beloved man. Like you, I have thought about going to a medium - but I haven't gone yet. I think that I would be really upset if I didn't get a message from him.

I get through each day- but some are so incredibly tough. I miss him so much, I can't even begin to explain it.

Of course you feel sad - you have lost a very special person. I believe very much that our loved ones stay with us, just remember that - keep talking to your lovely sister. She will give you the strength to get through. She will want you to get through.

Life can be awful to some people - it just doesn't seem fair really. But you have no reason to feel guilty - although I know exactly what you mean.

Take each day at a time. Take care of yourself.

Thinking of you. x

Don't feel guilty love it wasn't your fault.

Yes it do's get easier. I lost my darling husband 4 years ago and I still miss him very much. The pain has gone, now I remember all the good times we had. I am the patient now but I have been luckier than him as I am cleared of all cancer. I din't feel guilty that I have survived whilst he died. No I have been given a second chance and I will live my life for him as I know he will want me to.

It will get easier I promise give it time. Take care love Julie X