Mum is home...

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FormerMember

13 Jul 2013

Home for a few days with mum and loving seeing her. She is sleeping a lot which I am now aware is what we are to expect. She has had a few hospice nurses in with her this week assessing her, but is so reluctant to have them in,. It's a tricky one explaining to her that they are necessary.

I'm going to spend the next few days just laying with her and watching TV, but in the back of my mind it is all so sad. My sister from Australia is going to come over in about 10 days for a month. My nan passed away on Friday morning (my dad's mum) also from cancer. All very sad.

I'm hoping I can reinforce to mum how important it now is to let people in to help We cannot be here so she needs help.

I'm hoping we have a lovely few days together. She seems to have already become very weak since getting home only 5 days ago, so I am wondering how quickly everything is going to happen now. This is all so rubbish. :(

FormerMember over 10 years ago

Hi Sorry to hear about ur mum and just having ur nan pass would make it so much harder. My mum is in her last few days of life. I can tell you my mum went from sleeping 8 hours a day to sleeping 14hours a day and as the weeks went on she slept more. Its so hard not getting upset around them, but we have to be strong for them. It would be alot harder for them having to deal with the fact that you know ur going to die.

My mum would not allow anyone to talk about dying as she did not want to be sad for her last moments of life. Which i fully understand...Goodluck and cherish every moment u do have left with ur mum. Take photos as they will be ur last memories of her, even thou its not good but its real..takecare of urself as she needs her family the most now. goodluck
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FormerMember over 10 years ago

Sounds like it won't be long then from what you say. Mum is not really awake a few hours watching TV. I'm sitting with her and just watching TV. Because she has the tumour in her tongue she can't really speak anymore. So it's quite peaceful sitting with her. Thanks for the advice. This community is amazing at being responsive when you need them to be. I'm so sorry for your rubbish situation too. Sending you as much positivity I can muster. Take care.
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FormerMember over 10 years ago

In my dad's final days he would be out of bed for an hour, maybe 2 or 3 times a day, the rest of the time he would be sleeping. I assume your mum isn't eating now? Is she able to drink? It's such a horrible, horrible time, I couldn't go back for a million pound but this time is also so very precious. Say everything you need to say, comfort your mum and let her know that you love her dearly but it is ok for her to go now. Thinking of you.
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FormerMember over 10 years ago

Hi @mollyb

It's very strange - she seems fine in herself. This morning she had a wash and was up and about and functioning normally - but it wore her out completely and now she is asleep and has been for a few hours.

Her chest is pretty wheezy too. I'm worried the end is a lot closer than I think. Myself and my family are thinking months - but I guess I need to stop freaking out and just take it day by day.

Thanks for your thoughts Much appreciated x
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