I've had a lot of upset in my life but nothing ever compared to losing my partner after battling for 3yrs after being diagnosed with stage 4 cervical cancer.
I have never had to deal with someone being so ill to where you see physical differences at every stage of the awful illness.
My partner was a beautiful young lady who was so dependent and very strong ,she really looked after her appearance and was always dressed well and worked hard.
We were a small loving family with our only son who we adored and loved to spoil.
Our son had just left school and enrolled at college for 2yrs studying sports science and politics. He was no trouble and was well liked among tutors and students.
We had everything going in the right direction as a family .We both worked full time ,had a family car and lived in a new build since 2007.
Our story began 4yr ago when I got a call at work from a staff member who worked with my partner. She told me my partner was on her way to hospital after loosing 2 pints of blood at work.
I didn't think of anything else but rushed to my partners side and comforted her while she had a transfusion to replace what she lost.
As we left we had a follow up appointment and a clinic appointment a week or so later.
I remember the clinic appointment so well .At first my partner wanted to go in first and would call me if needed.10mins or so and a nurse came out and asked if I would come in as my partner was upset.
I had a big lump in my throat as I sat in the room.
Then they hit me with it.Cancer.
I was a wreck.Ive never had to deal with news like that.
Wow I was so upset .
They weren't sure at what stage it was at only a scan and a operation to remove a lymph node would grace us with that bombshell.
And the scores are in .
Stage 4 .
Non operative.
6 sessions of chemo Followed with radio therapy.
We had a little bit of hope as a scan showed no change .
My partner suffered with a lot of nerve damage and had to cope with 2 kidney stents and a permanent cathata.
We loved trips to the coast with our French bull dog ,but this was getting harder and harder to manage with limited movement and paranoia people would look at her cathata .
Our trips got less and less.
My partner had problems with the cathata as it kept blocking.
She had the added problem of faeces passing through cathata causing blockage and infection.
She lost all control of her bowels and I had to wipe the bed ,bedding,floor and in time my partners dignity was lost as I had to clean her the best I could aswell.
My partner started to pass out which was very scary as I thought I was loosing her then.
She lost her faculties and was almost forced to go to hospital by an ambulance extraction team but by some miracle she came round and knew what was going on again.
That was short lived as she began to deteriorate very quickly.
I've never ever seen someone pass away but this was the love of my life and by god was it the most upsetting thing I've ever witnessed.
I could not watch my partner shut down.
This has really effected me .
I see her everyday in that awful situation.
To all ladies young and old.
What I saw a lady go through for 3yrs.
I hope every lady takes note and accept your invitation for your smear test.
Please ,as I would not want any lady to go through what my partner did and leave your loved one broken.
I loved my partner very much but I wish I had longer with her as she had missed a lot of memories .I love you so much CHERYL and miss you every day.
