What is this site for...........?

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Im sorry that i feel, the need to post this blog, to me  this site has been fantastic and has helped me so much with the daily living and coping with the issue of having a loved one with cancer.

I could not have got through the passed few very difficullt months with out the support of all the lovely people i have met here!. The one thing that stands out the most is how nice people are even though they may be going through there own struggles.

The thing that has saddened me is to see people posting negative bloggs regarding support ,friends or chat some people  have even  been rude and in some cases down right abusive on chat. it would be nice to see a little more positiveness. Maybe reading some other blogs will give people an idea of how in need of support some people actually do need.

Having said that there are so many lovely, supportive, genuine, caring the list goes on..... people here and as i have said before i could not have been without it. I do hope that no one takes offence by this as it has never been my intention.

To be honest  over the past week i have seen a lot and the thing that topped it off was when two lovely people who had both lost people very dear to them, were giving abuse form a member on chat, as there loved ones had not even been laid to rest.  I do  think it is important not to judge others  but to see this happened was very hard to comprehend. Well on a positive i enjoy talking to so many lovely people on both blogs and chat and will do for a long while to come. take care lisa

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I must admit I have found that there have been a few little incidents just recently that have left a bitter taste, and that surely can't be right on a site like this, can it?  What is happening? Can't we get back to supporting one another and having the occasional laugh. I love reading the regular blogs of Debs, Drew and Andrew etc, they make me laugh out loud and yes, sometimes cry a tear. We've got enough to contend with tackling this disease, let's not cause ourselves more problems and even worse, upset folks who are also having a bad time, for whatever reason.

    Peace and harmony to all.

    Angela xxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I have used this site for over a year now and have had great support from people. But yes there have been times when I have been so close to walking away, flare ups, name calling, spammers, people who are not what they seem. I don't blog as much as I used to do, but do like reading the regulars' blogs. I am going to be terribly unPC now and say we really ought all to be singing from the same hymn sheet not snapping at one anothers' heels. Let's see if we can move to being the supportive network that we once was, and I am sure can be again.

    Rant over!  Kathx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi, I don't blog regularly, but when I do it's great to have feedback and supportive comments.

    I was quite poorly a couple of weeks back and didn't come on the computer for a few days.

    What a shock I got when I came back on here, someone who I had tried to give support to was accused as a fake!! Don't know how that came about, but was very sad about it.

    Then I come on again and find that another chatty friendly person has decided to leave due to some controversy on chat. Once again I don't know the details.

    It seems lately that every time I am on the site there has been upset and arguing between people.

    Please, please can we go back to the thoughtful and caring site this once was. I don't remember any of this unpleasantness on the what now site, although I hadn't been on it long before it changed.

    I have had some great support from people, Debs, Angela, Leigh, Normally to name but a few, and I have tried to support them also.

    Take care everyone and please continue to give advice and support, this disease is bad enough without some people turning on each other.

    Love and hugs, Debbie. xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I shed a tear at the weekend when looking at the site. If I had been a newcomer (cancer patient or carer) I don't think I would have stayed as it seemed that the place was just for back biting and bickering.

    What I know is that 99.9% of the people on here are "jolly good chaps" who will always be there for you, no questions asked, ready and willing to give support and advice.

    Let's make sure Macmillanland stays alive and as great as we all know it can be.

    love n hugs to you all

    Andrew xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Oh I see a corralation between Debbie checking in and trouble ;)  just teasing honest!!!!  Good to see you on here matey xx