my mum breast cancer had spread to her liver
im in totel shock at the moment i just cant belive it. my mum was my best friend, and my life, she was also my dads, and the sunshine has gone out of his life. it happened so quick. its so unfair. i keep thinking that she is just gonna walk back into the room. the house is left like she has just nipped out. and it was so heartbreaking to see my dad going round asda for ready made meals for one. im really worried about him to. but the one thing that i cant get out of my mind is about 3 mins before she died, she shead a single tear. can anyone help me with what im going through.
FormerMember
Hello there,
I am so sorry - I lost my mum on 10th Dec, just 11 weeks after having lung cancer diagnosed and I know just what you're going through I really do. My heart aches for you and you need to make sure you talk to friends / partner and don't be frightened to cry when you want to, it will release some of the pain for you.
My mum shed a single tear in the hour before she died as I was talking to her and thanking her for being such a wonderful mum, I looked up and she had a tear running down her cheek. I like to think it's because she could hear me and she knew she was fading away and she wanted to express some kind of emotion to me. The only thing that makes me feel in any way better is that my mum didn't suffer at all, and she said right back at the beginning of all this that she wanted it to be quick as she didn't want to suffer or be in pain.
You, like me, have to live with how shockingly quick this awful disease can take someone from us and all the things that were left unsaid - try to think of some good times and some good memories you have with your mum and focus on them if you can.
I will be thinking of you as you go through this dark time - stay with us on here and you will find a lot of support.
my mum died very suddenly from secondary brest cancer about 9 years ago. it was a shock for her family because she didn't tell anyone not even my dad ,when consultants letters came she screwed them up and shoved them down the sofa !
anyway i just wanted to share with you how i felt hours after her death , when i looked round the house the telly was still on tuned to the channel where she watched the best soaps, the magazines were next to her chair where she had just been reading. her clothes were drying on the radiator ready for her to wear the next day and up until then i was still in shock , but then i saw her glasses and that made me cry heaps.i was worried that me mum wouldn't be able to see without her glasses.silly isn't it.
i too was so worried about my dad he was 73 when my mum died and she did everything for him. but he managed really really well , it didn't mean he wasn't heartbroken but he knew my mum wouldn't have wanted him not looking after himself. instead of doing himself a sunday roast for himself he book's a slot down at the local pub to eat there or goes to a relative .
i saw my dad last week and he looks so well i think he has seen the past 9 years as a new chapter and because he lost my mum he trys to pack everything in . he's a very sprightly 82 year old!
i am so sorry for the loss of your mum and i know the shock is awful . my thought and prayers are with you and your family xxx
