my lovely dad has got cancer...

I learned yesterday my Dad has cancer too.. my thoughts are with you! Some Dad's are pretty amazing and very loved.

I don't know about your Dad's type of cancer so I hope other people come on and give you the information and advice you are looking for.

I just wanted to say this is a great site for support and there are some amazing people online to support you and the best thing is you can say the things you can't say outloud on here and people will understand.

I joined last year when I learned my 16 yr old son had skin cancer... my experiences on here have been wonderfully supportive.

Take care Julia xx

Julia - thanks so much for the reply. I know I'm not alone in this awful nightmare. I guess I never thought it would strike our family, it always seemed someone else, like the neighbour, or a friends friend.

It's dads birthday tomoro, just made a nice chocolate cake for him, and my husband and baby have been blowing balloons ready. I know dad won't feel like celebrating, but I don't want him to get so low. He goes so quiet sometimes, I just don't know what to say. I watched him today as he fell asleep in our armchair, his mouth wide open coz he can't breathe thru his nose. He looked so helpless, not like the strong, stubborn and arrogant man he actually is. The growth is causing him blisters in his mouth and painful teeth, so have been trying to get him to eat mushy foods and soft sandwichs etc. I've just read on here the side effecs of radiotherapy, my goodness I don't know how we will cope :-(

Julia, sorry to hear your dad and son have been affected by cancer, is your son better now? And your dad - has he started any treatment?

Sending lots of get better wishes to him ;-) xx

Hello Lib.

Julia is right this site is a wonderful place to come, not only for information but also the support of other carers and patients alike, i lost both my parents to cancer some years ago and we had the help of macmillan nurses in the home, and they were very nice very helpful positive people.

I now find that i have the same cancer that my dad had! and so came here initially for information and advise, which i found, however the site is quite vast and sometimes its not always evedent where the information is, there is always the phone number you can ring and speak to a real person ( a rareity in this day and age i find) I am only 56 so still trying to work and cope with treatment, operations etc, it is not an easy trip, but somehow something makes us all cope with it, and with a little humor and friendly banter from this site it really does help me get through the day.

I wish you and your father the best of luck and hope you will come here often for any support you might need, you are not alone.

Pauli.............

pauli - thankyou for your reply..my goodness you've been through a lot with losing both parents to cancer, and now you have it :-( I'm so sorry to hear that. I wish you a speedy recovery from all of this, and I've no doubt that treatments are much more effective and specific these days.

Yes, you are right.. its so important not to lose your sense of humour - and ability to smile..its crucial.

I try to remember these things when I look at dad. And my baby boy reminds us daily how to laugh ;-) His laughter is so infectious, and cheeky its impossible not to smile when you're around him.

It can be hard work tho, not getting much sleep and worrying about dad.

xx