shock!!!

Dear leeset, I so sorry to learn of your partner's news.  I don't think anyone knows how to cope when their loved one is given a diagnosis - you've only been together a short while but being practical is brilliant in itself.  Your partner needs you now more than ever and this ride is going to be bumpy.  If you don't feel enough love to deal with this, don't do it out of feeling guilty - your partner doesn't need you to be with them because you feel sorry, guilty, or that you have to be there - your partner and you need to do this because you both love eachother.  You are faced with a very difficult decision at such an early honeymoon stage of your relationship, but decide you must.  Do what's best for you and what will give you the most, albeit staying with your partner and taking one day at a time or walking away to change your life, either way I wish you both the very best of luck and sincerely hope your partner pulls through.  I wish you both the very best and don't let guilt get in the way of any decisions you both make.  Be honest.  Good luck, Ann x

I believe that our fate is decided for us.

I think you two met for a reason and maybe this is it.

If you decide to stay and see this through then I am sure it will strengthen your relationship.

I cared for my husband through his journey and my new partner of 18 months cared for me during mine.

In both instances the love between us strengthened 10 fold.

Ann is right you need to decide for you, and for the right reasons.

There is always hope in these situations and cures and miracles do happen.

I know someone who had throat cancer at 60 and lived until she was 95.

Good Luck in your decision and I hope that your man makes a full recovery.

Lots of Love Julie X

It can be hard for carers but please hang on in there. I couldn't have coped without the support of my husband. It will be difficult but it may also bring you closer.

Best wishes,

KateG

dear leeset - so sorry to hear about your new guy

sending you both love and ((hugs))

and cyber-strength

xNx

The first few weeks after diagnosis is such a confusing and emmotional time.  Take your time to come to terms with the news taking care of yourself and your partner.  Crying togther can be very healing and I know my partner and I shed a thousand tears in the first week following my diagnosis of bone cancer.  Be kind to yourself and do what you feel is best for the both of you.  I wish your partner every luck going forward x x