On the 21st January 2009 my beautiful and amazing Mum Lena died suddenly of Ovarian Cancer aged 55.
My mum fell ill a few weeks before Christmas 2008. Mum was admitted to hospital, but discharged nine days later with a bowel condition and was told her condition would improve with bed rest and medication. After two extremely restless and painful weeks Mum’s condition worsened, so we re-admitted her to hospital.
Two days later my family and I were informed by the doctor that Mum had cancer, we were completely oblivious to how advanced the cancer was, and how little time we had left with my Mum.My family and I became extremely concerned at how rapidly Mum’s health was deteriorating and had expressed our concern's to the doctor in charge.
Seven days later, our worst nightmare came true, and we were informed that Mum had days to live. It was difficult to believe that in a few days time, my Mum who had been our strength in life and had always showered us with love and care, was about to die.
During Mum’s last few day's, my family and I were able to stop with Mum and look after and care for her like she had always done for us. Mum peacefully passed away with her family around her on the 21st January 2009 at 5.25am.
My mum's strength, courage and determination will live on, not only in the heart's of her family, but in the heart's of many other's she had been in contact with in all walk's of life. My Mum had a wicked dry sense of humor, and would tell hilarious tale's that would keep you at the edge of your seat. Mum had the ability to make anyone feel at ease, comfortable and welcome. Her smile would light up a room, and her eyes had such warmth which all the family will miss dearly.
My Mum's passion was her family, she was a devoted wife to my Father Michael, an amazing Mother to me, my Brother Peter and Sister Laura, also a doting and adored Nanny to Alfie and Harry, a loving Sister to Diana and Peter and adored Auntie to Jennifer and Robert. Mum also welcomed our partner's to the family with open arm's, James, Matthew and Kerrie whom she loved dearly.
My family and I have some wonderful memories of things we had done in the last few months of Mum’s life, one being my wedding to my husband James in Sept 08, which my mum was”Queen for the day” and spent all day telling everyone she was Mother of the bride with a big Cheshire cat smile on her face, these memories we will cherish forever.
I am finding life so hard without her, she was my rock, my everything, without her i feel so sad. I just wanted to talk to people who know what i am going through to see if this is normal.
Thanks Karen x
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Hi Karen,
Although I haven't been on this site for a while for some reason I just thought to pop in tonight and saw your blog entry.
Although I don't totally understand, cuz everyone is different I can certainly relate to what you are going through. I lost my Mum on 27 January 2009 after a very short battle with Cancer. It will be 16 weeks tomorrow since we lost Mum and still everyday I feel a huge loss as if it was only yesterday. My son and I spent a lot of time with her and so there is a huge gaping hole left where only she can fill it.
I miss her more and more every day and although people keep telling me it will get easier it really isn't.....in fact its getting harder in some ways.
Anyway, I didn't mean to go on about me.....just wanted to let you know I'm out here if you did ever want to chat.
Im so sorry for the loss of your mother she sounds like a beautiful women and obviously by your comments she was very loved.
I havent lost anyone to cancer...my partners got leukaemia thats why im on here but i have lost a son 6 yrs ago and i do know that grief is an awful thing it consumes your thoughts,is very painful & heart breaking...my sympathy really goes out to you all, words of comfort i can give to you are that time is a healer yes you will always love your mum and feel a sense a loss especially at xmas,birthdays,mothers day but as time goes by that sharp pain at your heart will ease ...and your mind will be filled with happy memories...and will lift your spirits.
What your feeling yes is normal for me i went through stages...i joined college not long after i lost jake to give me a focus...it helped lots...keep busy.
So very very sorry to hear of you losing your mother, the pain must be so hard to bear, and no amount of words will ease it. It must have been such a shock not only to discover your mother had cancer, but to realise the little time you had left with her must have been a cruel blow.
My thoughts are with you and your family, and if yoiu need to chat feel free to contact me.
Thank you all for your lovely messages. My Mum was an amazing women and touched may peoples hearts, i really did adore her and am so proud to call her my Mum. Life can be very cruel indeed and unfortunately thhis horrific battle with cancer never ends : (
I never though my Mum would die of cancer, but who does? My Mum was amazing in hospital, so strong, a real trooper. I take each day as it comes, and would recommend that to anyone as its to hard to think of the future without her. I had everything last year thanks to my Mum, a wonderful wedding, family and Mum and now i feel like i have nothing. I feel sad all the time with out her, she mad me laugh so hard i would cry, but all i have now is the memories of times we had shared together.
I believe Mum has gone to a better place and that she is watching over me, i know she would never leave me as she loved me to much to do that, i just find it so hard not hearing her beautiful voice anymore : (
I am so sorry to go on. I hope you are all finding a way to deal with the difficult situation you are going through xxx
