My Dad has lung cancer that has spread to his bones and brain. He has lost a ton of weight since his diagnosis last month (July). He is taking more morphine as well. Has anyone had experience with the cancer moving so fast?? As a family we are scared, because weekly we see a decline in my father.
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It is very very hard to watch someone and see these changes becoming more obvious. I don't think that it matters that your Dad is taking more morphine - what does matter is that he is living painfree. I hope that something can be done, and that you all are getting the right help not only to care for your Dad but also to support you emotionally.
My mother was diagnosed on 26th February 08 with lung cancer. Within weeks it had spread to brain (4 spots had appeared), her breast and in the last few days her groin. Sadly for us, my mother died on the 22nd May 08, but it was a release for her as the last few days of her life she suffered. My mother smoke from the age of 16 to 58 years of age, she had actually given up smoking last August but sadly the damage was done. My mother would have turned 60 on the 24th July 2008.
I understand how difficult this is for you. You are just getting your head around one diagnosis when another one is sprung upon you. It has been 3 months since my mother has died and my family and I are really struggling to come to terms with it. I believe it is only hitting us now. This disease and experience has frightened me so much that I have a fear that I am going to get cancer and die. My father is not coping very well with the loss of his wife and my sister is putting a brave face on it; but I fear she is holding all her emotions in which isn't a good thing.
I want to be realistic with you, it is very hard and it doesn't get easier. The best way to try and move forward with life is to share your experience with families who have had similar experiences; and to remember the victim of this horror disease the way they were before their illness.
