Hi im new here my mum had a routine mamagram which came back that she had breast cancer about six weeks ago. Since then its been awful a total roller coaster of emotions. she decided to go for the full masectomy as she has lost three sisters to this awfull disease and feels this was the best option at the moment it looks good the mass was only 7mm and docs dont think there is any lymph involement we find out tuesday from test results. But as much as i try i find it really hard thinking postive due to my aunts not making it. Is there anyone that has had close family members with this diease and themselves gone on to be fine? Also is it normal to feel so compleatly shattered its been a week now since surgery and im doing all cooking cleaning etc to give her time to heal but she seems really low on energy its starting to get her down more than the op we went for a short ten minute walk today and it totally washed her out is this normal? And how long does it last
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Hi Kelly,
I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I can't answer your initial question because I do not have any other close family affected by this cancer. I can say that it is normal for your mum to be tired, its a fairly big operation she has had and has bound to have sapped her strength. I only had a lumpectomy but was exhausted for a few weeks afterwards. Your mum just needs to take tiny steps, she will get there in the end!
i was first dx breast cancer in 99, my mum got it after ,me in 2000, althoug for me the prognosis is not good my mum, is now cancer free she had a full body scan in november, so just cos your aunts didn`t beat it does not mean she wont, i know it must be so hard for all of you, my goodness its horrible that you have all gone thrugh this but take your time as indie said, tiny steps. good luck liz xxx
So sorry to hear your mum has just been diagnosed with breast cancer. My sister (Liz g, see above) was , unfortunately diagnosed with bc in 1999 she now has secondary bc, but like she said my mother was diagnosed several months later and she has now been cancer free for nine years. The scan shows she has no cancer.
Try to be positive, everyone's cancer is different and negatativity will only bring you down. Your mother will need your support (emotionally as well as pratically) you have all had a huge shock and need to come to terms with it.
Your mother will appreciate all you are doing for her just be there when she needs you, but take a little time out for yourself, yoiu are going throught his too.
sorry to hear about your mum, I had a mastectomy in march and still get tired if i do too much, everyone is different, she will get her energy back when she is ready, well done to you for your support, take care viv xx
