Is ready to start kicking some friends to the kerb!!!!

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FormerMember

3 Jan 2011

Hiya well i hope you all had a lovely xmas and great new year :-)

I had a wonderfull time with the kids, only to return home and find my boiler had leaked through to my living room... what a lovely treat for me!! I threw my landlord the keys to my house and stormed out crying and refused to return until the leak and the ceiling was fixed, i cant wait to move now!!!

I had chemo again on thrusday, really struggled with the cold cap again and i cant wait until its over now. They have put me on new anti sickness drugs and i have to say they are fantastic i had no nausea at all this time round :-) One more round of epirubicin and then im onto cmf, which ive heard is complexed??

More moaning...... im sure my friends are ashamed to be seen with me!! Im getting so angry with them, when i got diagnosed they was constantly saying how they would be here to help out, or even just pop round for a cuppa.... suprise suprise none of them have!! I get a txt now and then saying that if i need anything then just to pick up the phone, do they not think i feel a burdan enough without me ringing them up asking them just to sit with me a while because i feel crap or down!!! Im sick of them arranging nights out with me then at the last minuite they cancel saying they have a sore throat or some poor excuse, only for me to find out that they actually went out without me!!!!

I really wouldnt wish this on anybody but i sooooo wanna scream to them to just put themselves in my shoes if only for a day and to realise just how lonely this journey is sometimes!!!

Well knickers to them all, i will soon be fighting fit and bk out partying and they sure as hell wont be getting invited!!

Take care all, thats my ranting over for today :-p

Love, Emma xxx :-)

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Happy New Year and good luck with your treatment.

How you describe your friends is just typical of

what many people who have cancer experience. Some people have the same problems with their families.

You are the important one so anyone who doesn't support you is not worth worrying about!

Good Luck with your treatment! Love Julie xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Happy New Year and good luck with your treatment.

How you describe your friends is just typical of

what many people who have cancer experience. Some people have the same problems with their families.

You are the important one so anyone who doesn't support you is not worth worrying about!

Good Luck with your treatment! Love Julie xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi emma, i totally understand what ur going through. everyone told me they were on this journey with me, but they lasted a few weeks!!! When i get an odd tex, they never ask how i am just totally ignore the fact im ill and rabbit on that there suffering with a cold!!! i told one friend the other day everyone has deserted me....her reply was "lesson learnt" meaning no one cares. It is lonely and scary sometimes and it is probably dfficult for them to ever totally understand what were all going through, but sometimes they dont even try.

All i learnt on new year was how i find it hard to deal with the loss of my old life and old friends and am hoping it will make me stronger. i would never desert them in there time of need so thats makes me a better person than them. the way i see it a true friend friend knows you need them without having to ask. look after number 1 right now thats all that matters.xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi emma

I think we have all had the same i have what i would have called close friends disappear of the face of the earth and then other who were not that close step up and i hear from them 2 and 3 times a week and nothing is to much trouble and as lonelyangel friend said lesson learnt i know that i have learnt my lesson and when i'm fighting fit again which won't be long as all my treatment is finished they can jog on if they re-appear it a sad thing to find out but some people were never a true friend are better off kept at a distance x
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Sorry your having to go through this, and so called friends treating you like that, it really is true that when the chips are down you find out who your true friends are, there might even be a surprise "acquaintance" who turns up trumps, it often happens, I am lucky enough to have a handful of friends and all my family who have supported me for the last 12 years that I have been fighting cancer, I have always chosen my friends carefully, and not one of them has let me down.....

Good luck with the rest of your treatment, and tell the pretenders to make like the Christmas turkey and get stuffed.....

Hugs LIZ xxxxxx
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