Has Cancer / Chemo affected anybodies tolerance levels and made them more selfish than before?
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FormerMember
I'm 32, I had testiciular cancer and 3 courses of chemo at the age of 30.
Since having cancer my personality has changed. I am less tolerant of things. I am a lot more happy to do things for me... I used to put my wife and kids first (not exercise and golf!). I'd like things to go back to the way they were (and I know my wife would!).
Am I alone in this and should I just 'get over it? Do I need some councelling to help? Should I not just be grateful to be alive?
Does anybody else feel this way and how have you worked at getting 'back to normal'
It's taken 2 years of burying my head in the sand and now it's time to tackle it!
J
FormerMember
Well - hello James - wow - yes I do understand what you are talking about - but I haven't been able to be more selfish due to being a woman! I am definetely less tolerant of other people and their pathetic insignificant snivells (or thats what I think!!) and I feel that having to think about your own demise in your thirties is so life changing and so isolating. I would love to be as flippant and "what the hell" as I used to be and I would love to enjoy superficial stuff. I am having counselling at the moment because I get so angry about how my life and my body has been damaged and I find it hard to relate to other people my own age. I don't think you can ever be the same - but its how to make it a positive thing - and I have been trying for 3 years now!! By the way if people say to me "well you have to think positive" I would like to scream - I don't really know what helps - but you have obviously thought a great deal about it - and that is a fantastic thing. I am very relieved that someone else is talking about this - I hope this comforts you too x Katster
