Well I don't do many blogs to be honest, but I do read through this site regularly.
I've not been on this site a full year yet, but I certainly have learnt a lot and met some lovely people. I'm older , wiser (still learning) and a damn site greyer (anybody know a good hair dye that actually covers up grey ?) A friend of ours from my scuba-diving days has just recently been told his treatment is to be stopped (what little he has had) and he will be sent home with painkillers. This friend is younger than me and to be honest this frightens me. What I would like to say is a thanks to all those who post on here as without your insight I would not have the courage to go down and see him to talk to him. Sounds sick doesn't it, but having read a lot of posts where friends disappear at times like this or are too scared to visit for fear of saying the wrong thing / not not knowing what to say has made me realise you just can't put things off and hope others are visiting etc. Well we did go down (after checking all was ok to do so) & I'm so very glad we did. It was very sad & there were angry feelings too, but to hear his voice (instead of texts) & lovely laugh again was worth the journey. We discussed friends and how tight the circle is - we are on the outer edge of those you keep in touch with. You may not see each other for months / years, but when you do it's like it was yesterday. We ended up saying 'sod the world' and we will do what we want (well we are grumpy old gits' now !), but we are going to spend our money and enjoy it while we can. Despite all this all he's worried about is his partner. We went back later to say hello & goodbye as we were going home, but would be back. Too much pain to talk & seeing his partner sitting there was when it really hit home and that's when the tears came - for what's to come; the pain he is in & the fact she won't talk (but I will work on that ) & the sheer fact he is not getting any help & we aren't close enough to step in to do more.
Well the tears are flowing again, but thanks again to all on this site (& my strong friends on here) as without you I would not know we have got the inner strength to get through this and help others. I'm making a list of things to do & what not to do (attitude wise) - joint 1st are sod the grey hairs as I will never moan about being old again & when help is offered to others it is followed up - not let slide in the hope a phone call will come asking for help as it never does.
Well that's my bit for today - whether it makes sense I don't know.
Thank you, Jewels xx
