My wonderful mum's terrible journey

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Hi, just like everyone else I'm new to this.  My wonderful, absolutely, brilliant, intelligent mum was taken into hospital in Stirling on 24 Mar 10 and told she had a brain tumour.  My mum is only 67 and the most intelligent and placid natured person.  She is a very young and independent 67 yyear old, going on holiday on her own to Australia, Tour of Italy, Tour of China (was booked to go to Cuba in September this year).  She was then diagnosed with gliabostoma multiforme grade 4 and had the operation to remove most of the 5 cm tumour on 31 March 2010.  After my mum's operation she was absolutely amazing, she opened her eyes straight after her op and was wolfing back her dinner and hasn't stopped since.

She only got home from hospital on 6th May which was a long 6 weeks.  After the op my mum was gr8 , amazingly chirpy and full of hope but since about the 1st May her mood has changed completely. I thought my mum would be better once she got home but no, she just seems to have deteriorated really quickly.  Shows no interest, depressed, wants life to end.

Mum started her Radiotherapy 14th May.  I felt really guilty because I was working.  The hospital phoned to say that they would keep mum in for her treatment.  My mum is now completely confused and doesn't know what is happening.  It is absolutely heartbreaking.   After mum's 3rd treatment, the doctors decided to stop.  She was admitted to the Hospice on Friday 28th May. I am an only child and it is breaking my heart.  I just want the best for my mum and realise that things are going to get a whole lot worse... 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello blueeyes i am so sorry your mum is so ill..i have added you as a friend so that you can always private message me if you need to talk any time. Your mum sounds alot like my sister who i lost in 2006..i just wanted to say I understand how you are feeling

    love scarlet xxx

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      FormerMember

      I know how you are feeling right now. My dad passed away on the 9th April after only being diagnosed with bowel cancer in February.

      He was a very fit, healthy man who ate healthily, didn't smoke, drank very little, exercised etc, but he deteriorated very quickly. Unfortunately his cancer had spread considerably before he was diagnosed.

      It is totally heartbreaking watching our parents become so ill and dependant. I'm sure your mum will be very well looked after at the hospice.

      I wish I could find the words to help ease your pain, but, unfortunately there are none. Please know that I am thinking of you.

      Best wishes, Christine xx

      • FormerMember
        FormerMember

        Hi Blueeyes,

        My deepest sympathy for your Mum and what shes going through.As you say things might get alot worse. You seem to me to have the strength Love and Caring,that you will need in the times ahead.

        Dont forget your own health you will need that to help you on the way. Best wishes for you both.

        Take care and be safe Big Hugs Sarsfield.XXX.

        • FormerMember
          FormerMember

          Thanks everyone for your kind words of support, they really mean a lot.  It's just awful to think of anyone going through this terrible illness.  I'm ashamed to say that I hadn't really thought about this disease until now.  I've seen so many brave people in the last few months going through what must be the most frightening thing they have ever had to endure.  I pray that they all find the strength to get through it.

          I am just back from seeing my mum, it would be so great to have a wee chat with her but she is so confused it's impossible to have a normal conversation with her.  She just gets irritable because she doesn't know what's happening to her.  She'll ask if she needs the toilet.  Or constantly says, "What do I do now"?  She doesn't remember what she has just eaten.  She'll ask the same thing over and over.  I know that i've lost my mum already and that's really hard to take in.  

          Hopefully tomorrow she will be a bit brighter.  The one good thing is that she isn't in pain.

          • FormerMember
            FormerMember

            Hi Blueeyes,

            You are going through a rough time,you and your Mum. The good news is she is not in Pain.though I

            Know your heart is breaking.try and keep your strength up. I send you both my strength and love.

            Take care and be safe.Love Sarsfield.xx