Hello.
I am new to the site. I am unnoficially caring for my partner of 6 years who has been recently diagnosed with terminal ovarian cancer. She is 52, I am 26.
It all started a few months back when she bled from her vagina, after having been through the memopause. A smear test showed a raised level of....whatever the marker is called that indicates that you have cancer. We went for a few internal cameras. They still weren't happy. We then went for an MRI with contrast. Still not happy. We then went for a needle biopsy, where we were told that the sample they took was grade 1 cancer. They took the sample from her omentum. The MRI scan showed growths on both ovaries, a thikening of the omentum, and possible seedlings on her bowel. The next week, she was recovering from a failed hystorectomy. They could not remove much cancer due to her organsbeing fused together. They couldn't even see her left ovary. They removed her right ovary and some of the omentum.
The last two weeks have been the most difficult so far. She was very reliant upon me moving her around, washing, dressing, cooking, administering medicaion, you name it. I didn't realize how exhausting it would be.Finding the time for a shower was difficult in those first two weeks.
Her wound split open in three places, and became slightly infected. Apparently this is very common with abdominal cuts. I wish I'd have been told. The district nursed have been wonderful these few weeks. I am injecting her each evening with clexane and controlling her pills. She is not able to cook or clea yet, and this last day has managed to use the toilet and dress herself.
We are also fishting her husband in court at the moment, due to a divorce. Messy is an understatement... She is tempted to take a big cut in the financial settlement just to remove the stress of the whole ordeal. We are also having issues with the sale of the matramonial house.
My wish is for us to be able to resolve the major stresses in our lives so that we can use the energy to fight the cancer, recover, fight again, recover... and enjoy the rest of our lives. Maybe too much to ask for.
Just wanted to write an introduction, and to say that I look forward to sharing and caring on here.
