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Dear Blobby

My heart goes out to you. I think the reason that the forum need to be age 16 is that there is a lot of detail on here that may be hard to deal with at a young age.

But seeing as you are here, I just want to send you a big ((((((hug))))))). I have just lost my mum, Im 40 and Im finding it tough so I cant imagine how hard it must be for you.

I have  a daughter and son your age, it is really hard going through your teens anyway.What I would like to say is that your mum would want you to live your life to the full, to keep happy memories of her at the front of your mind, and I know she must have been very proud to have a daughter like you.

Yes , it really hurts that she is not with you anymore, and 14 is a difficult age to be without a mum. But try to find a female that you trust enough to confide your feelings in (  a teacher,aunt ,gran??). No-one expects you to be brave all the time, but your mum would want you to try to make the most of your life. Try to smile and think of the happiness you shared.

Best wishes and I really hope that you find someone to comfort youxxxx

Sharon

Hello Sweetheart,

I absolutely agree with the advice that Sharon has given you & if you can find someone to share your hurt with it will help. Macmillan offer a counselling service which might be of help to you too - the number is free 0808 808 00 00.

This is a truly awful thing to happen to you. Mums are so precious & being without yours at 14 is very, very difficult to deal with.

Cancer blights so many people's lives, but that never helps us come to terms with our own hurt. Please try and find someone to talk to and get support from. Your Mum would most definitely want to see you getting on with life and living it to the full & finding support will help you do that.

BIG HUGS

xxx

Hello darling, what a dreadful time you are having.  When I was first diagnosed with cancer my daughter was 17 and doing her AS levels at school.  I was very ill at the time and could not have chemotherapy because I caught infection and nearly died.  I remember saying to her at the time "please don't fail in your life because of me - my greatest wish for  you would be that  you succeed inspite of me".  Yes it was very hard for her but she has succeeded and is now at LS of Fashion studying hairstyling and make-up.  I am so proud of her as I know she has found my illness so very difficult to deal with, but I am still here so she's lucky in that respect.  I wonder whether there is anyone your age going through the same grief as you and maybe Macmillan could help in that respect.  Grief is tough for all of us no matter what age and sharing your grief with someone in the same circumstances may help you deal with it.  We don't come to terms with loss of our loved ones we just move on and live our lives, so I hope one day you do your mum proud and live your life to the full, just as she would wish, in her memory.  Sending you big hugs, dont be afraid to cry and share with your dad - he's probably missing her too.  Lots of love to you, Ann x

Hello, please talk to someone at school as they will have someone who you can go to when you need it. I'm a teacher and know most schools do have someone the pupils can see but it usually on a need to know basis and very confidential.  My heart goes out to you. lots of love xx