Husband dignosed with Prostate Cancer and will not tell anyone

The only person I have kept it from is my 92 year old mom who has lost her daughter to breast cancer, her granddaughter to a rare stomach cancer at the age of 30 and now son In law to lung cancer, all to the same family. I am awaiting  bone scan results as my psa has just started to go up a year after surgery and I'm experiencing back problems, I didn't mean to ramble on about myself, as I'm getting away from what I wanted to say. I have found that's it's better to be open and discuss this with anyone and everyone, we can all help each other, sharing our experience etc and this is the best place to start. Feel free to contact me and all the best, Steve 

Clapton, I'm so sorry to read your news.  Whilst it's understandable that that your hubby wants to keep things quiet initially, he will find it becomes harder and harder and will eventually I'm sure choose to tell.  The strain on you must be huge - as women we need to talk it through!  You will of course get some support from Mac nurses, who you'll be able to talk to.  Hopefully this will come quickly. 

My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer just 8 weeks ago and my parents were in such shock that they chose not tell, but it was impossible to keep from family, friends and neighbours, so in the end we (immediate family) chose a story that we agreed to stick to.  That worked for a week or so, then as news has become progressively worse, we've opened up more and more. 

My mum, like you is struggling with the fact that she will lose my dad just after he's retired.  He has always been so fit and active.  It's really is impossible to absorb and come to terms with...

I hope you are able to make some progress with your husband and in the meantime talk to the professionals if he's ok with that.  You need the support too.  I wish you the very best.