Hello
I joined this site only last month after the devastating news that my husband has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer with secondaries to liver. It was discovered due to him goin to A&E at my insistance following few weeks of crippling stomach pains and being treated for constipation by GP.
He was admitted to hospital as they discovered he has a lot of fluid around his lung.
Finally has CT scan on 21.10.08 after having lung drained and sent home same day with devasting news.
We sat around for a full week not quite knowing what to do and after phone call to GP(who had not been informed of his diagnosis), we were assured he would be referred for oncology appointment asap.
First we were told to attend appointment with pancreatic surgeon which came through on 05.11.08. Didn't see consultant, just registrar who bluntly told us we were looking at months to live. Gutted.
Hosp next day to have lung drained again. They made a mess of it and didn't successfully clear the fluid, then discharged hubby next day.
He never had another peaceful day, due to breathing difficulties, reliance on oxygen 24/7, and the stress of knowing no-one could help him.
Appointment for oncologist came through for 20.11.08.
Sadly, my darling husband, best friend and soulmate passed away in the early hours of 19.11.08, never having been offered a kind word or any positivity. Not a lot of faith left in NHS or God at the minute.
FormerMember
What an absolutely tragic story! I can hardly believe that your husband was treated in such an uncaring way - well, yes, I CAN believe it because this site is filled with people telling stories of callousness and inhumanity, and it IS inhuman to treat people in this way. There is no excuse which can absolve the so called "caring profession" of their responsibility in continually treating human beings with cancer in such a disgusting way. I so wish there was something I could say to you, but having lost the husband you so obviously loved will mean that no words will ever be enough. with lotsa love kate xxxxxx
I am so grateful to all of you who took the time to reply to my blog. Still can't believe how quickly this thing took a hold of our lives and took the life of my beloved hubby, who was only 45 yrs old with everything to live for. The only comfort I have is knowing that he passed away peacefully in his sleep, right beside me where he always wanted to be.
But I wasn't ready for it, I wanted so much more time, which is so selfish, cos I woke up and he didnt. Now I have all the time in the world and I don't know what to do with it..
To all of you who are dealing with this dreadful thing, one way or another, live every day to the full and tell your loved ones every day how much you love them.
I'm glad I did, and was told it back on a daily basis.
No day will ever be the same without his touch, smell, smile etc but I have very few regrets is a wonderful comfort.
I have two beautiful, wonderful kids who will fill up some of my emptiness, and whose courage over the last few weeks has surpassed anything I would ever have expected. Thank God for them. At least God did something right in giving me two wonderful reminders of the 25 years I had with their dad, even if He saw fit to take away such an important part of our lives.
I saw a great quote on here about dancing in the rain instead of waiting for the storm to pass, and boy, am I learning to dance fast.
Not the best birthday I've ever had today. Still, at least I am here to spend it with my kids, a luxury my husband won't ever have again.
Thank you all for your continuing support. Take care
