My father had cancer of the pancreas removed by surgery 6 months ago. It has now most likely returned, we are awaiting the result of a biopsy, and he has been very poorly indeed due to his bile duct being blocked by what we think is the cancer. He has been in hospital for 3 weeks now, two of which he was unconscious in critical care. He has had a stent fitted in his bile duct and he looks heaps better as a result of it, but it needs another procedure to get it fitted completely, it only went half in, so he has to stay in hospital for a further two weeks we think. We have been told that the cancer is not cureable as my father would not survive an operation. I think we are all trying not to think about what we have been told, we haven't discussed it much and my father hasn't seemed to want to discuss it. Our main aim now is to get him home and give him some lovely life. It is hard to fit in a full time job with visits and my mother is a bit creaky, my father was her carer really until this. I am having a week off next week so I can get my breath back and be effective as a supportive family member.
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Hi, welcome to this site, sorry it's in such horrible circumstances.
This must be a very difficult time for you and your family, but there is always someone here willing to lend an ear when things get too much. So feel free to come on and offload anytime you like.
HI so sorry to hear about your father, it is horrible but you will get lots of support and encouragement on this site, I am new to it also and it has helped me a lot to hear others, whether good or bad, it is just good to know you are not alone and they understand what you are going through.
hope all goes well and you manage to cope with whatever may happen.
my dad had a stent yesterday but he looked so yellow last night i dont understand what is happening he has been ill for about six months and he only weighs 8 stone now he is on some drinks to build him up and at last some pain killers which have really helped him it happens so fast i can not stand the thought of him suffering it seems to get harder each day how can it take so long to be diognosed he is 82 and has a heart valve so they proble will not operate on him i dont know how far advanced the cancer is i dont want to and im not ready to loose him, to see him so frail is too much. all you can do is be there and show your love. my thoughts are with you soraya
I am new to this site. I read the above stories about hello123 and elizabeth1968, and I must say, it is such a relief to my heart and my head that you are out there. I have searched and googled over thousands of sites to find info on my own fathers condition, and all of them left me feeling confused and scared. My father is 60, just barely, has already undergone the whipple procedure 11 yrs ago, and is now facing another risky surgery to remove a new mass that the drs. are unsure of. I had no idea 11 yrs ago that my father was so close to the edge, older and wiser now, my fears are almost consuming me. I will pray for your fathers as if they were my own, my wonderful father goes into surgery on Mon.--all my prayers
