life begins again!

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FormerMember

30 Jun 2010

At last I am coming out of my last chemo, and wondering what to do next. I want to get on with the life I've missed - visit family and friends, out for coffee, theatre, holidays and time with my husband in our M Home (Stella). After 15 months of hospitals and uncertainty it suddenly feels strange to have no appointments and deadlines, and in a way I don't know what to do first!

My husband wants another cruise, but as that was when I was taken bad last time I don't feel comfortable with that 'just in case'. No travel insurance on a boat in the middle of the ocean is a great way to say no! Do we take off in Stella for 6 weeks - then I can't see the family and friends I've missed. Do we wait and go in September, when the weather is changing? Should I risk going to see family in Los Angleles again? How long have I got before it strikes again? How long will it take before I become aware of it? Where will I be and can I get home easily. Such decisions I have never had to think of before.

I know I should just take the bull by the horns, but which bull and which field is it in?

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Ya Greybadger ,

You Grab the Bull by the horns and you Pick which Field its in. As long as you are Happy, Thats all that matters.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Oh boy do I so get your sentiments. I am the caregiver and my husband was "afraid" of so many things. We have taken it a step at a time, when it feels right, and each time there is a victory of sorts.

I suggest taking it on a "gradient", and bit by bit you will begin to feel comfortable pushing a bit out of your comfort zone.

But above all, do what you WANT and do it just because!

Go girl!

Lori

www.loripuente.com

"Live isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. Its about learning to dance in the rain!"
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

When I finished my treatment I couldn't stay in the house for a night. I felt suffocated and had to catch up with all I had missed for the last year. That soon passed (I ran out of money lol).

It's a strange feeling, but let's face it, it's a good position to be in, to be able to make those choices again. Why not do it all?

Just enjoy whatever you do as it is well deserved.

Take care. Christine xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Go and live your life and enjoy every damn minute of it, do every thing that you want to, don't put off things JUST DO IT ...love Carol x
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Dear Viv,

I understand your feeling of uncertainty but take a deep breath and write down everything you want to do . This will stop the choices whirling round in your head! Then start gradually with the smaller ones and work your way up. Please try not to think of the disease coming back, this is time to enjoy yourself so off you go and have a wonderful time.

Keep in touch and take care,

Love lizzie xx
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