Hi, it took me 5 days to pusuade my wife to let me have a no.3 cut when my hair was dropping out and eventually we did it, after a day she got used to it so maybe try to get him to understand it from your position.
What was said though was shaving my head made it more real if that makes sense.
My boyfriend was exactly the same. I had long hair and he loved it. When he first saw my bald head he said, "It's still you, just not as nice!" - the plonker! It just came out of his mouth before he could stop himself. Then he left the house for an hour with a made up excuse about getting something from Tesco. I've got a feeling he may have gone for a cry. He was 'off' for about a week and I was quite scared but he seemed to just get used to it without me having to do or say anything.
I've not had hair for 2 months now and only recently he admitted that, at first, all he could see was a bald head. And he was worried about saying the wrong thing and upsetting me.
I think the hair loss is very symbolic - it's a visual reminder that you're poorly. My sister said she felt that there was no going back once the clippers came out.
I found that by the time I'd bought a couple of gorgeous headscarves and some nice ear-rings everybody had calmed down a bit because they could see that I was ok with it and had it under control. Sometimes I go bald, sometimes not - it really doesn't matter and actually depends on the weather. Everybody has got to the point where it's ok to make stupid jokes now, like "keep your hair on" or "who loves ya baby?"
My boyfriend sometimes kisses my bald head at night. I think you probably just have to give yours a bit of time and he will 'come round' without there being too much drama.
I wish I could be as strong as you have been and shave mine off. My hair started to fall out on Wednesday, I feel a bit of a wuss putting off the inevitable. But I'm more worried about how my family will react to seeing me with no hair, especially my youngest son who is worried about being bullied at school if any of his friends see me with no hair.
I hope it doesn't take your hubby long to accept the change after all you are still the same person. It is just another chapter on this whole journey that we have to go through and he should be proud of you for taking control.
