It's just all so bloody unfair isn't it?

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FormerMember

3 Apr 2014

Had a great day with my Dad today. He's been 'tidying' (air quotes) his house, which means about 20 years of junk is now scattered round his house.

I took the day off work and we took a car load to the tip. I'm my fathers daughter though and was rescuing things as we went along, things that will now clutter my house instead!

Also convinced him to take a look at a suite at DFS, which he actually bought! Now his bum can sit in comfort for the duration. He deserves some comfort. We laughed when the guy told us about the ten year guarantee on it, didn't have the heart to tell him that no my dad wasn't actually strong as an ox and wouldn't outlive him or why.

Just watched something on the telly where a father died. It was awful, and graphic and it scared me. I'm scared that I'll be there, scared that I won't, and most of all scared that my Dad has to go through it.

Really really unfair :(

I read a post from someone on here recently, so positive about her daughter and her treatment to come. It made me think about how much moaning we do, how it is hard to keep the bad thoughts away. I think that I'm going to make the effort to see the good side more.

Happy thoughts people!

FormerMember over 11 years ago

The whole 'C' word is so unfair. It ruins lives, takes lives and shows no remorse for doing so. It's natural to be scared. I'm scared every time I forget about it and then remember it again! I'm pleased to hear your dad bought himself a new sofa. I was going to look at some myself next week, and now I am even more inspired to do so. We have to try and laugh in the face of adversity, and sometimes it's the best thing to do! Enjoy the spring sunshine and I send you some sparkley good thoughts :-) x
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FormerMember over 11 years ago

Hello Puddles, here's to happy thoughts and happy bums. I liked your blog, but please don't be afraid to be with your Father at the end of his life, we all have to leave sometime and it must be good to have loved ones with us. My Father was dying, I had travelled to be with him, in his last weeks many friends called daily to his home to see him. As friends arrived it was obvious this was his last day so they stayed and others arrived, they sat or stood quietly, knowing, waiting. With his last laboured breath, his eyes glazed he gave me a lovely smile...........I have never regretted but always been grateful to have had that special time with my Father. Many were in that room yet it was intimate and peaceful. My Father was free from pain. Death is inevitable, if we meet it surrounded by love that will be good. Until then we can and should fill our time enjoying every amazing thing on this incredible planet. Spend all the time you can with your Dad, of course he knows you love him but the words are lovely to hear again and again. Puddles I trust I have not upset you 'cos I only want to send support and love. Elma. xxx
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FormerMember over 11 years ago

Thanks for sharing Elma, it is inevitable and I'm glad that you found peace in such a sad experience.

Miss S, hope you got something nice for your tushy!
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