Hello all. I am new to this site. My name is Gina and my father, Angel, who is 68years old, was just diagnosed last month with stage 4 esophageal cancer. I went into a depressive state for about a month, I am starting to accept what he has but it is so hard. I would give up everything if my dad gets cured. I asked God to spare his life and take me instead because I feel that I will be able to fight this. My dad is giving up and I dont know what to do. I cant see him in so much pain, it breaks my heart and I just cry and cry behind his back and never let him see me.
I take care of my dad along with my mother. My mother also has depression and crippling Arthritis. I have been in and out the hospital with both of them and it is alot and can be mentally draining. I am a college student so between my parents, my son, school, I am on the verge of a breakdown, but I ask God for strength and this gets me by.
I would like any advice on esophageal cancer. They said he is not a candidate for surgery, only chemo. They found only like 2 lymphnodes in his stomach and a tumor in the esiphagus. He cant eat solid or pureed food, only liquids. He has a feeding tube.
WHY cant my dads tumor be removed so that all of his back pain can go away? Has anyone had surgery in stage 4? What hospitals would you recommend in NYC. All help is truly appreciated and I will pray for you all tonight. Keep strong and if we work together, we can help eachother.
Thank you all for listening.
Gina
FormerMember
hi gina my name is marie firstly i want to say that i completley understand where you are right now, my dad was diagnosed stage 4 esophageal cancer late jan last year, i had not even heard of it!.naturally the first thing i did was hit the internet but found no answers to my questions,my dads cancer had already spread to his liver when he was diagnosed so this was what they called metastised cancer,meaning it had spread.initially we were told my dad could not have surgery and that chemo would help prolong his life,but then after a two week scan we were told chemo was not an option either and that palitive care was needed none of this made sense to me.we were the unlucky ones we were told 12-18 mths with palitive care,unfortunaltley after just 7 wks we losts my beautiful dad. i want you to know that this was just my experience i have read lots of others where with pallitive care a patient can live a longer life i wish i had more time with my dad to tell him everything i had to we never knew just how short our time was, ask more questions take a notebook with you to your next appointment so you dont forget anything, and write things down because when you leave all they tell you goes out of your head, its hard not knowing what will happen and this is your dad! stay strong,my love and support is with you remember every case is different, my advice ! love,talk,and cherish every moment, god blessxxxxxxx
