Mum had a visit from the pallative care nurse who was asking where she would like to be when her time comes to die.... it all seems to have become real. Iv'e not slept so god knows how mum is feeling. :o(
Can anyone tell me how they coped?
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i went through the same my husband steve wanted to be at home, but in our bed did not want hospital one. it was hard knowing each day he was slipping away, but i stayed by his side 24/7 giving him whatever he needed, and he knew i did everything i could to keep him with us a bit longer, i iwis i had more input from the profeesionals as to how i'm coiping with it all!! everyday i tried to get steve to eat but no luck, spent most of his time sleeping or trying to get up to the toilet, his end was sundden!!! but i know he was where he wanted to be and it was peaceful with me and the kids around him, he had a tear in his eye when he passed. if he was here i would do it all again, it was a comfort to know that he got his wishes and i feel he is around me wherever i go the kids too. pleasee add me if you wish xxx
I'm so glad you were able to do that for your husband. i want to be at home when my time comes but I worry about my husband coping. He is absolutely positive he will do it for me but I wonder if it quite fair on him, we have no other family only our son.
Mrs Bee, I don't know how people cope but it seems that when the time comes they find strength from somewhere. I am stage 4 with no treatment available but not yet terminal and for my part I am wishing for a heart attack or something to finish me off quickly. Sounds terrible I know but that is my coping mechanism- telling myself it's not happening. I think it must be many times worse being the carer and I send you love and strength.
Hi my mum died at home at the end of January. It was hard at times but we had the support of some fantastic district nurses who came daily to do mums syringe driver and were always on the end of the phone and sometimes they were there a couple of times day. I have a sister and of course my dad so between us we cared for her the best we could. Just try to look after yourself as well. There were times we wondered if we were doing the right thing but when she passed away we were all with her and it felt so right that she was in her own home. Know how hard it is for you at the moment but take care sending you lots of love and strength x
