help :'-(

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FormerMember

12 Apr 2015

Hi,
I am on for a rant,
I have had to go part time at my work, I am trying my best for my Mum. My Dad and Mum are still married and live together but my Dads way of coping with things is through humour. I know that is his wayof coping but it is actually upsetting my Mum. I have triend to speak to my Dad but to no avail.
Yesterday I had my Mum out in her wheelchair and I felt as though people were all staring, I wanted to scream obscenities at them and tell them to stop staring. I am an only child and I suffer from bipolar disorder so stress does not sit well with me, this is why I feel pathetic. Please do not get me wrong, I am not on here looking for sympathy. I just find it impossible to talk to my Partner John about because he has a different mindset to me.
Yesteday I came home and was alone. I ended up wailing and screaming and crying,. I have not done this for over 20 years. I just feel pathetic because it is not me who is going through Cancer, it is my Mum, I just want to take it away but feel so useless :''-(
sorry for rant, thanks for reading (if you did)
Jules x

FormerMember over 9 years ago

Hi Jules,

I am so sorry to read that your Mum has had a cancer diagnosis. It is a very difficult time for all when something like this happens, and particularly if you have a condition which adds to the stress for you. Please don't apologise for being here to rant, as you say. Of course, you need to speak about it and to express your emotions, and it is often easier to do that with people outside of your immediate family. Please also don't feel that you are being pathetic. Yes, your Mum is the one with cancer, but cancer affects everyone who loves that person, and sometimes we all need to just have a good wail and scream - you are not alone in that!

I don't know if you have joined any groups here, but there are two I would recommend to you which I know you will find useful. The first is the Carers forum, which is for anyone involved in a caring role for a loved one with cancer. Here is the link . There is also a Family & Friends group - link here. Both groups are very supportive and helpful.

Please also try to concentrate on taking care of yourself, and make sure that your GP, etc, are aware of the extra stress that you have at the moment. You are obviously providing your Mum with a lot of support at the moment, and that is far from being useless. But you need support also - we all do when we are in this situation

My thoughts are with you x
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FormerMember over 9 years ago

Dear TinaM,

thank you soo much for your beautiful reply, it has had me in tears. I am as we speak about to click on and join the links that you so kindly looked for me, I sincerely appreciate your kind words, I will not forget your kindness and support xx
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