feeling very alone

I can fully appreciate how you are feeling, what a terrible time you are having. In the last year i have lost my aunt and nan to cancer, my uncle died a year after my aunt and now my dad has in the last two weeks been diagnosed with a primary lung tumour, liver mets, cardiac involvement, oesophageal cancer and lymph node involvement.... you feel like you are just becoming stronger after the last trauma and then another comes along to knock you off your feet. I too am a sister working on an intensive care unit and i feel the pressure that all of my family are looking to me to provide answers and support, i can easily see how things may have got out of hand and you stop looking after yourself.......

You sound like you have been certainly been through the mills and you still have tough times ahead. It is difficult but i will try and take my own advice and take time out every so often to look after yourself. You need to be strong and healthy for those around you that need you and hopefully you can get some of the support you need from some of us here when you need it. I have spent most of the time since my dads diagnosis being strong for everyone else and breaking down when alone, i know the balance has to change for my own mental health purposes.

I Have my fingers crossed for your partner, i hope you get some good news soon. I can't sy anything to take away the pain of your current circumstances but im here if you want to chat and sound of. Take care, stay strong. xx

Gail xx

Hi Avi,

So very sorry to hear about your troubles with Cancer,  nobody deserves to go through all this

torment. Especially someone who works in an Oncology Unit as well. But your right dont forget about some me time, if you can get it. All the best

and good Luck.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

I feel for you being pulled in so many directions at once. Although we have not had to face a run  of cancer, my diagnosis came just after my sister gave birth to her baby at 26 weeks. I remember being relieved that the baby was doing well, becuase I know how difficult it would have been for my family (well, parents especially) to feel they were giving us both the level of support needed at the same time. Also, I remember not wanting to burden my sister with bad news.

I hope that you can keep your head above water during these difficult times and take each day as it comes. Maybe when your father has finished treatment your load will be eased for a while. And I hope you are still able to enjoy precious times with your partner when you are no doubt incredibly anxious.

Good luck to you and your loved ones.

Eleanor

x

Hi, my thoughts are with you, you sound so brave with more than your fair share of worry. You must be so busy with family and work to cope with but i can only say time is so precious that you must try to take some out of each day for you, to breathe slowly take a break for yourself or you wont be any good to anyone. I also hope you fiind the time to tell them all how much you love them as I found it so easy to think it but not always say it out loud and it means so much. i hope you get some good news and can relax a little to enjoy Christmas with all your loved ones, my thoughts are with you, love leisha xxx