Just been diagnosed with breast cancer. I survived cervical cancer in 2004 and this one isn't related. I'm just very unlucky. I had a terrible time before as I was living in Austria and there was no support network. Can't help thinking about how bad it was before even though I have family and good friends here to support me. Also feeling very guilty about putting them all through it again. Xx
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Holly, please don't feel guilty. Having cancer is not your fault. It's hard enough having to cope with having this horrible disease and going through the treatment, without burdening yourself with quite undeserved guilt as well. And very often those around us actually derive benefit from being able to offer help and support. So let them. I hope you will join the breast cancer group here and gain support from them too.
I agree with Dyad. There is no guilt. As a widower I know if I had a partner who had cancer I would care for him as much as I did with Laing. I would even use that experience to do it better.
Please don't blame yourself or beat yourself up over this. It is the way things are. There is love and support enough on this site to show nobody holds you accountable.
Holly, you must never feel guilty, just remember, although its daunting, you fought and won last time, just go for it Holly, you can do it - the best of luck and stay in touch, the people who post on this website are so supportive I'm sure we can help you to get through it.
Thanks everyone - it really helps to have such positive comments. Have seen GP and got some meds to help me through the period before treatment starts. I know the guilt is self defeating and also that people really do want to help. Have started telling family, friends employer etc and once everyone knows I think I will be able to come to terms with it. Telling others is so hard! Thanks again for the support.. Xxx
