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Hi  

First thing is welcome to the site but you sorry you have the need to be here. We are a group of Patients, Carers, Family and relatives who have all been affected by Cancer in some way.

You will find all the help, support and care you ever need on here - from people who have been there or may still be there now themselves so we really do understand how frightened and scary it can be.

I am not saying we can solve all your problems but we can share our experienced and the ways we learn to cope.

There are plenty of ladies on here who will be happy to discuss their own experiences of various B.C. operations and Reconstruction.

Maybe at this stage the most important message maybe is - do not despair. The fact you maybe in a high risk group means that your health will be monitored and hopefully preventive treatment will be available to you.

Cancer can serious and may involve some intense treatments - but it is by no means a certain sudden  death sentence. The more you learn about it on here then maybe the less fear you will have. We all fear the unknown !

Please use the site for support, help and maybe just reassurance when you may feel alone

Hugs

John x

Your not a disappointment nor a let down! How can you be?

It is not your fault that your mum got cancer. As you said the cancer has gone and there is a big chance that it may never come back.

75% is a significant chance but look at the 25% that also is a good chance that you won't get cancer.

It is normal to feel frightened when a loved one is going into hospital and to have major surgery.

My advise to you is not to waste anymore time feeling so negative as you are wasting precious moments when you could be happy for and with your mum.

We cannot let this disease win by living in the dark. Make everyday and moment count and accomplish those goals you talk about. I am sure your mum is proud of you anyway.  Whatever path you take in life as long as you are happy then your mum will be too.

You have come to the right place for help and support and you can cry and rant as much as you like on here and we will listen and support you!

Remember there are no guarantees in life and that go's for cancer too. You may never have to face it again hopefully.

Try to stay positive and make as many happy memories as you can.

Take care Love Julie XX

Its understandable that you have fear. Remember your Mums in remission, Yes they say that B/C does run in families but that dosent mean you will get it. If you are worried go and see your G.P. and arrange a chat, It might put your mind at ease. All the best for your Mum and her re-construction Op.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx