So confused and helpless

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My husband had the whipples op New Years eve 2008, followed by chemo, 6 mnths worth and then they decided to give hime radiotherapy. He was supposed to have 5 wks of this but was in so much pain after just 2 lots that they stopped this after his 5th amount, but he also ended up in hospital for 9days in such terrible pain and was very unwell.  They put him on morphine patches to help deal with the pain when he came home and also oxycon for back up. He did not last very long at home because he was re-admitted to hospital nearly 5wks ago in excruitiating pain in his back and they do not seem to be getting this sorted out.  He has had a block injected of chemicals into his back but this is not working, also on a diamorphine syringe driver the highest they can afford for him to have and back up of diamorphine injections every 2 hrs if needed.  He has lost so much weight there is nothing of him. They have now decided to send him to St. Thomas' hospital for a PET scan.  They say it could be trapped nerves after the whipple op, but we feel they have perhaps given him to much radiotherapy, more than they should have in such a little space of time. Has anybody else experienced this or similar..  I feel absolutely helpless and feel like I am watching my husband die slowly and painfully, I am at my wits end. Could somebody please give me a little advise, anything. thank-you.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello Duchess - I am so sorry to hear that your husband is feeling so poorly and things are not improving for him. I just wanted to reassure you that the radiation is unlikely to be the cause of his problems as people tolerate much higher doses for much longer periods than he has had. Radiation is used to kill pain in some circumstances (indeed I have had radiotherapy to reduce pain in my hip and back) and the side effects of radiotherapy will be available to check in the cancer information section of this web-site. I feel sure that he has an underlying problem which the PET scan should clarify for you. I do hope that more can be done for him as there is nothing worse than being in pain - either for the patient or the carer who has to watch while feeling of helplessness surround them. Sending strength and love to you both, Jools xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Duchess,  I didn't have the whipple op, but it was similar - removal of adrenal gland, half my pancreas and spleen. Then I had lasering to lesions on my liver.  Every since then I've had terrible pain in my right side - no cause was found as they say the liver lesion (which is in that area) is too small to be causing so much pain. I'm now on amitryptaline daily, which has really helped. Might be worth mentioning?  Good luck, Jeanie x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Sorry, forgot to ask - if you are in London area and going to St Thomas' for PET scan, did your husband have his op at King's College?

    Jeanie x