years on and still issues after Breast cancer

Hello Dolly, maybe you should try to focus on the fact that you are one of the lucky ones. Think of all you have acheived, you said you have 3 boys, wow how wonderful.

I know they can be hard work and especially if you are alone. I know as I was alone for 15 years.

I am alone now, I live with my cat and yes I get depressed too.

There are alot of nice men out there who would accept you for who you are, even with your 3 boys and one boob.

I don't know how young you or your boys are. I think perhaps it could be the school holidays thats  getting you down.

Plus depending on where you live the awful weather.

Stay blogging on here and maybe we can cheer you up.

Take Care Julie X

Hi Dollybean, I am nearly 7 years since diagnosis and I still have issues surrounding cancer. I think it is something I will live with for the rest of my life.

Admittedly I don't dwell on it as much as I used to, but it is still there lurking nevertheless.

My dad was diagnosed with cancer in February this year and passed away in April and I have found that all my old fears of the cancer returning have come back to haunt me.

I hope you manage to find the support you need. I don't think our lives will ever be the same again, but I think we have to start afresh with a new outlook. Like Julie says take comfort from the fact that you have survived this disease and carry on from there.

Best wishes, Christine xx

Hi Dollybean.

I know where you are coming from. My husband for 33 years left me the week I found my lump which was then diagnosed as cancer. I feel so alone at times and like you would love someone to put thier arms around me and say we can get through this together, but they aren't there. I have found so much comfort from this site and I hope and pray that one day you like me will find someone who will be there for us and love and support us like we need.

Good luck and take care fingerss crossed for us both XXXXX

Hi Dolly, i am similar to you, i have had masectomy in feb this year, just finished chemo and about to start RT. I am single with 3 teenage daughters and know EXACTLY  what you mean. Its really hard sometimes and feel so very alone. My kids are all out enjoying themselves and i am just left with the lonliness sometimes.Depression can set in. Oh dear i havent really helped at all, sorry!!!! You are not alone i can so promise you that.

Take Care Love Kaz x

Morning Dolly, yes I understand how you feel.  I still have my husband but he never puts his arms around me or hugs/kisses me (we don't even go there re intimacy)!  Sometimes I feel so alone too.  When I get to that low dark point, I have bath, wash my hair, put on some nice clothes, slap on make-up and take myself off up the High Street.  Look at the lovely clothes, maybe even buy something, have a coffee or even put into the local pub and have 1/2 glasses of wine - somethine I would never do pre-cancer.  I don't care now, me alone is enough!  I don't need anyone to lean on to have fun - I have myself.  It works sometimes.  I also have to walk my dog and its amazing how many people talk to you when you have a dog - do  you have one?  They really are the best, he seems to know when I feel down and comes and sits with me, licking my legs and just being there!  We can learn so much from animals, they just live in the moment.  You have a choice Dolly, live lonely or decide to pick yourself, dust yourself off, and stand proud like the strong woman you are to have come through such a horrid illness.  Go out girl, join clubs, anything that gets you out for you.  I am sure the kids can be looked after from time to time for you.  God bless, every day is a new day with new opportunities.  Ann xx