The week of, as it turned out, rather Too Much

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Well: the Week of Nothing Much in Particular started out humdrum as expected - it rained pretty much all week, which didn't help improve the mood. There was some distraction in the form of a clinic visit on Tuesday to get my dressing changed and bloods taken, which ended up with me and the nurse talking about poo (I don't know why that always happens); and on Friday my brother came up, hurrah, hurrah. Mind you, I was even a bit grumpy about that, because I'd hoped we might go out for a drive in his shiny yellow sports car and we couldn't because of the rain - oh, lord, who said rain? I was out in the garden deadheading roses not five minutes ago, and now it's pouring - but it's always lovely to see him.

And then on Saturday we were woken up by the phone, which turned out to be lovely friend Penny, she of the PICC line cover knitting, calling to tell us that her husband Robin had collapsed and died of a heart attack.

So I should quit whining. I don't suppose I will, I whine therefore I am, or possible vice versa, but ... well. Shit.

Judy will probably be going up there the week after next, to help where she can. Because of the cats we can't both be away from the house at the same time, so I doubt I'll get to the funeral, but I would if I could.

(The Saturday post brought a cheque for £8.63 from my mother's estate. I will try not to spend it all at once.)

It seems heartless to admit that we went out on Saturday evening, for an Indian meal that one of my ex-YBP girlies had organised, and that we had a yummy meal and a very nice (if noisy) time, but we did just that. I didn't much feel like it to begin with, but it was wonderful to see so many of my friends; possibly it was a good thing. And, practically speaking, it wouldn't have done anyone any good if we'd stayed at home.

This coming week: consultant on Monday - the journey, on this occasion, made more interesting by the Olympic torch coming through Bicester and on to Oxford that day - and chemo on Tuesday. In view of, well, everything, I don't know if there's any point in looking further ahead than that.

The state of me: not too bad. Much better than I have been - I've been reading some of my old blogs and, oh, dear! Still very tired and breathless, and sleeping probably more than half the day; the Crab is quite bitey, and I suspect that I'm building up bloody ascites again and will need draining - again - soon. I hope we can leave it for a bit, though. Sufficient unto the day, and all that.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    So sorry to hear about your friend's husband. Very shocking to hear that so unexpectedly, and ghastly for her. Cliche time: puts it all into perspective etc etc.

    Good idea to go out for the meal though. Definitely. Glad to hear you're 'not too bad'. I hope that's an accurate assessment. Though it doesn't sound wonderful.

    Big hugs. xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Hils,

    Not too bad seems good in comparison to some of your hair-raising episodes. Sleep is fine, but sorry that crab is at it again plus the ascites ...

    A slightly busier week to come; not first choice of activity of course, but at least you'll get to leave the house.  

    Dreadful news about your friend's husband; there's little one can add except maybe that's the best way to go? Not for the nearest and dearest though.

    Don't chide yourself for "whining", you're just saying how you feel which was I believe, the aim of the Diary. When you look back, you should remind yourself that those were the days of Unknowns, when everything was new and terrifying. Now it's old hat and ... well, you can fill in the rest.

    Love and hugs,

    xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    You are not whiney, you have cancer and all the crap that comes with it so you are allowed to ay about it and I would be a tad peed off to say the least if i was you (understatement of the year there)

    as for going out and having fun, well, you should. Make hay and all that nonsense is right. For tomorrow we may die is never truer sometimes and how rubbish would it be if you died having spent your time being sad about other people dying. Of course it is so so sad but it does not mean we all have to do a queen victoria...

    My aunt in Sweden is one of the wisest people I know and my grandmother's birthday (step one, real one died even younger than my mum) anyway it was her funeral on my son's birthday and I said I feltt bad about having fun with him and giggling and cake and stuff that you do when you are about 7 and not going to the funeral... she said Life is for the living and live it and laugh it and love it.

    I do.

    Doesn't stop me being heartbroken at times, but if you are in the mood for a laugh, then damn well do it as lets face it life is shit enough without being miserable about it too....

    oooh that sounded a bit like.. Thus Endeth the Sermon for Today

    All the hugs and extra squidgy kitten ones (who are currently biting my toes)

    Little My xxxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Hils,

    I'm glad you had a good time out, it's just what is needed sometimes.

    What a shock for your friend, it's so true that we don't know what's round the corner eh. My condolences to her and all the family.

    I'm sending a huge, huge big hug and plenty of magic dust to get you through your next stage of chemo. Onwards and upwards always Hils xxxxxxx

    take care

    Jan x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hils I just wanted to give you a hug and hope today with the consultant goes okay xxx

    Roobsx